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Magical Push-Button States A decade ago, I used to compete in Okinawan Karate. Competitive karate is a roller coaster ride of glorious victories and bitter failure. There were days I found myself pummeled like a useless rag doll. And there were other days I scythed through opponents like an unstoppable juggernaut. Every punch broke through and every kick landed somewhere satisfyingly soft. (oooh how I loved that!) I would zip around the squared ring like Neo on steroids, launching a flurry of eye-blackening attacks with a detached sense of killer calm. My team never ceased wondering how I can be a sluggard one day and a murderous one-man army the next. "Joe," Trish used to tell me, "How in the world do you get into the zone the way you do?? You were amazing- That guy never stood a chance." I'd shrug and say that destiny meant for me to win that day. Today, I realized it's all a matter of states. States? What in the world is that? Turn on the TV or listen to the radio and you'll soon hear a popular self-help guru asserting how success "is all a state of mind" and exhorting that prosperity comes from "shifting paradigms and adjusting mind states." Step back a bit more and travel to the days of your Psych 101. Do you already recall how states are simply complexes of physiology and neuro-functioning? Sure you do! Look at the following list of words and observe how they describe common human states: Euphoria Confidence Creativity Lust Fear Focus Relaxation Warmth Nervousness Complacency Now ask yourself this: What would it be like to change your state at will? Imagine flicking a switch in the dark corners of your mind and suddenly transporting yourself from a state of gloom to explosive euphoria! To be able to shift from one state is empowering because you can back up any endeavor with the sizzling power of emotions. So, how'd you like to flick mental switches and command states at will? Alrighty- Let's get down to business then. Before you shift gears, first learn to pace where you're setting out from. Hence:

1. Take a deep breath and identify the state your mind is currently engaged in. Expand your awareness: notice the feelings and sensations coursing through your body as well as the sounds and pictures whirring in your head. Right now the weather is 31 degrees Celsius, I'm sweltering like a pig and feeling cranky as a baboon. I'm grumpy, and I accept it as *my state. Have you already discerned how you feel? Whatever it is, accept it as *your state. 2. Purge your mind till you feel neutral. Get all the garbage out.

3. Identify the state you desire. Most folks focus so much on their existing state that they fail to identify their desired state. You know what I mean: if I ask a grumpy person how they'd like to feel, they'd say "Certainly not like the way I feel now!" Folks, it's important to understand that the human neurology is goal seeking. Your mind demands a direction, so give it one! Okay. You've identified the state you want; here are TWO push button techniques to launch your desired state. 3.1 Method One: Recall an occasion when your mind oozed with the radiance of your chosen state. See what you saw back then as though you were looking out from your eyes (in 3D TechniColor). Relive the emotions that coursed through your body. Hear the sounds in True Dolby Surround Sound quality.Now, unless you are doing this halfheartedly (watching a grainy black and white movie in Mono), the sensations will peak and as they do, gently squeeze a ticklish part of your forearm for a few seconds. Release it.

Ok. That's done. Break your state by doing something uninspiring such as recalling the color of your beige wallpaper back home. Or the conversation you had with your boss. Now squeeze that ticklish part of your forearm once more. The state will come cascading back. Squeezing is a technique called anchoring. Search the archives for more info on this. Elroy and William whipped up a few good essays on the subject. 3.2 Method Two: First query yourself, "What am I experiencing when I feel (your state)" then plunge your mind into a three dimensional movie of yourself experiencing the state. For instance, if you'd like to be "suavely debonair", visualize the time you exuded sensual confidence around the opposite sex. See what you wore, the cocky expression on your face, the buzzing people flocking around you. Hear the adoring sounds that reverberated in the room as you were the center of attention." Make the picture really big and bright. Increase the volume and picture quality. Then… leap into that dazzling image of yourself and seize the experience. Relish the state. Then squeeze that ticklish part again. Advanced Techniques Whip up a list of states that you'd love to experience more. Choose either of the methods discussed (or make your own), and practice getting into those states while mentally anchoring them. I found it useful to create permanent anchors for Enthusiasm (for slow Mondays) and Warmth (for days my staff is in a cranky mood) Whatever you do, have fun zapping your anchors and firing those states. . In the Next Article Hate paying bills? Cleaning the lawn? Doing the laundry? We'll explore how to conjure irresistible motivation to do anything… even taking a root canal!

HOW TO INFLAME PASSION TO TAKE ON THE ICKY STUFF I hate balancing my (dilapidated) checkbook. I hate taking out the filthy garbage. I hate waking up on drab Monday mornings. Heck… there's quite a lot of things I abhor, I might as well crawl under a mossy rock and hibernate. The problem is, the real world won't forgive me for shying from obligations. And that leads to the big question: How do you motivate yourself to obliterate your dull tasks? Think of the many things you postpone doing—checking inventory, organizing your expenses, color coding your suits, typing up that report, sending mom a Hallmark card, washing the Doberman. That kind of thing. Is there a secret to firing yourself up to get rid of the backlog cluttering your desk since 1992?? THE BIG SECRET It isn't such a secret, really. In fact, it was published on last Sunday's broadsheet.The suggestion came from an 82 year old Ph.D: *Avoid doing things you don't enjoy doing. * I almost dismissed the advice as plain inanity. Somehow, images of mortuary attendants abandoning their shifts, doctors leaving their surgery patients and soldiers deserting their posts didn't seem quite right. There'd be chaos. (On the bright side, I can use it as an excuse to sleep through drab Monday mornings!) But my brain whirred and I soon realized the utter beauty of the postulate. You can avoid doing things you don't enjoy doing if— YOU CAN GET A SYSTEM TO ACCOMPLISH IT FOR YOU When I first launched a B2C shopping portal ten years ago, I found myself processing orders, following-up credit card transactions, shrink-wrapping items, shipping out the products and mailing thank you cards to my clients. This I balanced with my existing construction management business. All in all, that left me with 4 hours of sleep per day. The money was good but the life was about as much fun as a slog through the mud. Then I discovered the value of outsourcing to systems. First thing was to offload the credit card processing to a well- known e-commerce solutions company. They gladly provided the processing of orders, fraud screening and chargeback management. From then on, I never swiped another card through the machine again. I also hated accounting. Numbers and figures leapt at me like muggers with sharp knives and so I trashed my financial calculator and acquired the services of a book keeper. He now keeps tabs on receivables that's due my way, taxes that can be delayed, and deadlines that can't be sidelined. Today, I pretty much show up at office by 2pm in the afternoon. With a SYSTEM, I avoided what I didn't enjoy doing. BUT WHAT IF YOU REALLY HAVE TO DO IT? We all run into mandatory things which are important but can be as enjoyable as a tooth extraction. In fact, a molar extraction might just be one of them! How does one deal with these tasks that certainly don't make you float with bliss? I've dredged up a pretty effective list of tricks that stokes your engine for action. Here goes: A. Get a handle on WHY you're doing it in the first place. What will it accomplish? How will doing this make YOUR life better? Okay, so doing the dishes right now doesn't strike your fancy.But imagine what happens if you leave the dishwashing for the weekend when everything has piled up? Life certainly won't be better on Saturday. I'm sure you'd rather be at the beach with your friends! For every undertaking, ask yourself how doing it makes YOUR life better. Remember the WIIFM or the "What's In It For Me" B. Cut down a task into manageable chunks. The enormity of the task will just melt away. Let me ask you, how do you eat an elephant? A bite at a time!!! It might take some weeks, but it SHALL be done. Last month, I was coaching someone on how to setup a business. In my country, you can't just plunk down the cash and plunge headlong into any enterprise. There are business plans to make, permits to be filed, people to be hired, and tasks to be delegated. . You need to plan your AGENDA, hence… C. Whip up a detailed agenda. No, not on post-its that may be lost. A notebook would be great. Better yet, a Palm pilot with all the snazzy agenda tracking features. Palms even have alarms that make you guilty when you miss a deadline. (and no, I'm not a Palm salesman) D. Build up a state of motivation state & anchor it (check out for great stuff www.essential-skills.com on Artful Anchoring) Each time I map out my agenda, I visualize what it will be like when I've zipped past the finish line. I literally imagine that I'm relishing the fruits of my effort in a really bright, really huge mental screen. It's here that the magic begins; as I look into the future, imagining my task already accomplished, I'd start to wash over with warm feelings that I'm going to experience when I've actually done it. *I've given myself something to aim for. * E. Okay, we're nearly done now. In the previous step, you were imagining yourself enjoying the fruits of your effort from the first person perspective. Now, you are to step out of the picture and imagine looking AT YOURSELF from the third person point of view. See that big smile on your face. Watch yourself literally bask in the glow of accomplishment See yourself reaping the rewards from acting upon the job immediately. Do you see an image of yourself holding a briefcase of money?? Wow! Go for it!. F. Reward yourself immensely. A most important step! Be as generous to yourself as you can. Recall the Pavlov dog experiment (http://riri.essortment.com/pavlovdogs_oif.htm) ? The dogs were conditioned to drool whenever the dinner bell was rung because a reward (food) was waiting. It's the story of classical conditioning. Condition yourself for SUCCESS, Pavlov style, by compensating your efforts with something out of the ordinary. You'll look forward to more challenging tasks in the future. ADVANCED STEPS This is all useless theory unless your practice it. Get your lazy derriere off that couch, can the excuses, finish all those tasks that were due yesterday. RIGHT NOW. In the Next Article We've dwelt quite a bit on internal states and intangible things. Let's go for something more concrete. Next we'll tackle YOUR voice and how you can wield this powerful tool for indomitable impact.

Can YOU RECALL the last time you heard the newsman deliver his piece and you latched on till the last syllable? ....Or what about that rousing cry by Brad Pitt who (melodramatically) exhorted, "Beyond that beach is Immortality. Take it. It's YOURS!!" ... How about that time your lover lustily whispered, "the Bedroom. Now." Instantly, you felt hot all over; not because of anticipation, but because of her intonation. Now, stop, and let's look at at the other side of the coin. Can you already remember that dull professor who droned on and on. And on and on. Three cups of black coffee nothwithstanding, and you fell asleep despite her topic embracing your dearest hobbies? The Voice. Forget about the Pen being Mightier than the Sword. The Voice can rip that Mont Blanc to shreds. Over the spectrum of man's history, men deployed SPEECH like a sword. Ancient Senators in Greece used grand rhetoric to craft empires. Bill Clinton unleashed charming soliloquys to entice an entire nation. It also got great lovers satisfied and crafty employees a fat raise. So what's the secret to transforming that rusty vocal weapon into an indomitable Excalibur? I can give you numerous tips to explode the power of your voice, BUT THERE's ONE overriding principle. Follow it, and all the other tips automatically come into play. Ready for it? ++PASSION++ That's the key. Speak with passion, declaim with authority, sing with desire. ACT AS IF WHAT YOU WERE SAYING CAME FROM THE BOTTOM OF YOUR HEART. And yes, EVEN when you're droning about yesterday's company stock plunge before the board. Act disinterested, and people will walk halfhearted. BUT... if you delivery with intensity, I'm damned confident you'll rouse the masses to your selfish cause. I know, coz it's how I rally the troops. Don't drone " Yesteryear's poor performance resulted from lackluster product development due to underfunding of the budget department and aggressive performance from the competitor" Yuch. That's a poor performance speech right there. Instead, kick up the rhetoric with blazing action words that create images, sounds and pictures. Flood you voice with gusto, as you say, " Okay, I know we're all REELING from the kicking we took last year. Its smarts AND we deserve it. Why? We ABANDONED product devlopment and sat on our fat butts of the previous years. That gave our opponents room to CHARGE in and CHECKMATE us into a corner. Is this how it's to be? Gentlemen, we act now or we perish." Okay, it's melodramatic, but you get my point, don't you? Okay, a few more pieces of advice. 1) Speak from the diaphragm. Tom Vizzni mentions that quite a lot. If the voice emanates from the throat or the nose, you'll sound pathetic. To ensure that the voice is diaphragmatic, press down on your tummy as you practice speaking. If you feel it rumbling, you'll know that you're drawing from the lower levels to vastly and naturally explode the resonance of your voice. You'll sound ooohh so sexxxy. 2) Slouch and you're dead. Your posture adds and detracts from your vocal command. Imagine a hidden puppet master perpetually pulling your strings UPWARDS. Try speaking Abe Lincoln's "Four Score and Seven Years Ago" while standing straight AND slouching like a whipped dog. You'll see the difference. DON'T BE LAZY. Do it RIGHT now! 3) Pepper your words with Action words. Trash the vague abstractions and passive sentence structures- people will lapse into trance and space out... Say, "Mike SLAMMED open the door in disgust. He seethed with fury." Don't say "The door was opened my Mike and he was mad." Geez. 4) Finally, LISTEN and let PEOPLE speak. Communications is about saying your spiel as fast as you can, then gaining feedback. You and I would hate the speaker who hogs the floor, woudn't we? I walked out of a Microsoft Convention for Networking Idiots Like Me at the Hotel Shangri-La because the speaker spoke straight for two hours without a forum or even a single question thrown at the audience. Respect your listeners by listening and gaining feedback. Feedback is gold. ADVANCED LESSONS Okay, from now on, take note of your favorite anchor people. Watch how they report. Ask yourself how you could speak with such charisma, and HOW you can do it even *better. Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4

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