Sexual Polarity : This force of attraction, which flows between the two different poles of masculine and feminine, is the dynamism that often disappears in modern relationships.
If you want real passion, you need a ravisher and a ravishee; otherwise, you just have two buddies who decide to rub genitals in bed.
THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN
PART 1 : A MAN'S WAY
1 Stop Hoping for a Completion of Anything in Life
2 Live With an Open Heart Even If It Hurts
3 Live As if Your father Were Dead
4 Know Your Read Edge and Don't Fake It
5 Always Hold To Your Deepest Realization
6 Never Change Your Mind Just to Please a Woman..
7 Your Purpose Must Come Before Your Relationship
8 Lean Just Beyond Your Edge
9 Do It for Love
10 Enjoy Your Friend's Criticism
11 If You Don't Know Your Purpose, Discover It, Now
12 Be Willing to Change Everything in Your Life
13 Don't use Your Family As an Excuse
14 Don't get Lost in Tasks and Duties
15 Stop Hoping For Your Woman to Get Easier
PART 2 : DEALING WITH WOMEN
16 Women Are Not Liars
17 Praise her
18 Tolerating Her Leads to Resenting Her
19 Don't Analyze Your Woman
20 Don't Suggest that a Woman Fix Her Own Emotional Problem
21 Stay With Her Intensity To a Point
22 Don't Force the Feminine to Make Decisions
PART 3 : WORKING WITH POLARITY AND ENERGY
23 Your Attraction To the Feminine is Inevitable
24 Choose a Woman Who Is Your Complimentary Opposite
25 Know What Is Important in Your Woman
26 You Will Often Want More Than One Woman 27 Young Women Often Offer You a Special Energy 28 Each Woman Has a Temperature That Can Heal or Irritate You
PART 4 : WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT
29 Choose a Woman Who Chooses You
30 What She Wants Is Not What She Says
31 Her Complaint Is Content-Free
32 She Doesn't Really Want to Be Number One
33 Your Excellent Track Record Is Meaningless to her
34 She Wants to Relax in the Demonstration of Your Direction
PART 5 : YOUR DARK SIDE
35 You Are Always Searching for Freedom
36 Own Your darkest Desires
37 She Wants the Killer in You
38 She Needs Your Consciousness to Match her Energy
PART 6 : FEMININE ATTRACTIVENESS
39 The Feminine Is Abundant
40 Allow Older Women Their Magic
41 Turn Your Lust Into Gifts
42 Never Allow Your Desire to Become Suppressed or Depolarized
43 Use her Attractiveness as a Slingshot Through Appearance
PART 7 : BODY PRACTICES
44 Ejaculation Should be Converted or Consciously Chosen
45 Breathe Down the Front
46 Ejaculate Up the Spine
PART 8 : MEN'S AND WOMEN'S YOGA OF INTIMACY
47 Take into Account the primary Assymmetry
48 You Are Responsible for the Growth and Intimacy
49 Insist on Practice and Growth
50 Restore Your Purpose in Solitude and with Other Men
51 Practice Dissolving _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
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In general, youth in a woman bespeaks radiant, unobstructed, and refreshing feminine energy. A young woman tends to be less compromised by masculine layers of functional protection built up over years of need. Traditionally, young women were understood to offer a man a particularly rejuvenative quality of energy. Older women may maintain, or even increase, the freshness and radiance of their energy, but it is rare.
Imagine you are driving your eighteen year old babysitter home one evening. She is so fresh, so innocent, so alive. You can feel that she is totally open to you. You consider all the consequences. You look at her radiant skin, her clear eyes, her incredible smile. The way she moves, talks, and laughs makes you happy and fills you with energy. You arrive at her home. She says goodnight, leaves the car, and enters her house. You sit in the car for a moment, breathing slowly and deeply, smiling.
There is something unique about being with a young woman, and all men with masculine sexual essences feel it. You feel rejuvenated by her. Just sitting next to a young woman can make you happy and fill you with life force. You might have nothing in common. But that doesn't matter. It is her energy that delights and inspires you.
Uncompromised, youthful, feminine energy turns you on and opens your heart. You actually feel happier around young women. You feel more energetic, alive, and loving. As women get older, they typically take on more and more masculine tasks and responsibilities in our culture, so their radiance begins to decrease. In other cultures, this is less true. Women maintain and even deepen their radiance. But even in these cultures with more wisdom, it is understood that young women provide a special energy that is fresh, uncompromised, and enlivening.
Our culture reduces this youthful energy to a sexual thing, whereas it is actually a whole body transmission of energy, affecting the heart as much as or more than the genitals. In other cultures, young women were honored for their gifts of spiritual rejuvenation, tending to holy sites and performing sacred arts, not just ogled for sexual titillation. As a man, it is your responsibility to honor the heart-rejuvenative gift of a young woman, without violating this honor by imposing your sexual desire on her.
If sexual desire arises, fine. Circulate it through your body. Learn to conduct the magnification of desire without needing to throw it off in a spasm of release. A major part of mastering sexuality is learning to sustain greater and greater degrees of pleasure and desire in the body, without needing to rid yourself of the force because you can't handle it.
When you find yourself really enlivened by a young woman, breathe in her fragrance. Breathe in her energy. Relax your body and allow your heart to open in her presence. Take in her beauty through every pore in your body. Allow love to radiate from your heart toward her. Maintain a respectful formality so that she is free and empowered to give her gift, without being complicated by your personal agenda.
Use the energy she has given you in your own service to others, passing the gifts of heightened aliveness and passionate heart into all of your relationships, so that all beings may benefit by the delight you have received from this woman, who, for now, manifests the youthful gifts of uncompromised radiance and life force. _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
For most men, ejaculation involves spewing their energy and semen out through their genitals. Afterward, they feel they have released stress. The superior man's orgasm more often explodes up his spine and into his brain, from there raining down through his body like an ambrosial bliss of rejuvenation. The technique for converting depletive orgasms into rejuvenative orgasms involves contracting the pelvic floor near the genitals and drawing energy upward along the spine, though the use of breath, feeling, and intention.
What is premature ejaculation? Some men ejaculate before entering their woman's vagina. Others ejaculate after ten minutes of sexual intercourse. What matters is not when you ejaculate, but how deeply you are able to commune in love, with no boundaries, through the form of sexual embrace. If your ejaculation signs the end to your session of loving before both you and your woman have fully opened yourselves, then your ejaculation is premature.
If you are like most men, your first sexual experiences as a teenager involved masturbation. Masturbating over and over ends up conditioning your body and nervous system to an habitual sequence: genital stimulation, mental fantasy, building up tension, and ejaculating. Teenage masturbation is essentially an exercise in fantasy, done alone, without much love or even human intimacy. By the time most men are having sex with women, they repeat the same sequence they learned while masturbating. Sex has become a road toward ejaculation, a road paved with internal imagery, self-enclosure, and the desire to release tension.
To realize the full potential of sex, you must learn how to recondition your body and nervous system. You must learn how to unhabitualize the mechanics of your ejaculation, and convert your orgasm into a massive profusion of energy which deepens, not ends, the lovemaking session. The first step is undoing the habits you learned while masturbating as a teenager. Instead of tensing your muscles as you become sexually stimulated, learn to relax them. When you notice your face squinching up, relax it. When you notice your breath getting fast and shallow, slow it down and deepen it. When you notice your belly tight and your chest hard, open your belly and soften the area around your heart.
The next step is to redirect your attention. Learn to feel your partner more than your own sensations during sex. Rather than curling attention into yourself and feeling the pleasures moving in your own body, feel outward, into, and through your partner.
Feel your partner more than you feel yourself. Feel her movement, her moans, and her internal energy.
Eventually, with practice, you will be able to feel through your partner, as if your partner's body were a doorway into a vast open space of energy, light, and awareness. This unobstructed feeling is the basis for true lovemaking. Extend your love out beyond yourself and, in time, through and beyond your woman. This takes practice, since there is a strong tendency to focus on your own physical sensations, especially during times of intense sexual stimulation. Counteract this tendency by practicing to feel beyond yourself and through your partner as if there were no obstructions to your loving at all.
Besides relaxing and loving into and through your partner, you must become very sensitive to the force of your breath. Breath moves life energy through your body as well as your partner's. If your breathing becomes too shallow, the life force cannot be conducted through your body. Instead, this force builds up, usually in your head or in your genitals. If it builds in your head, you will begin to spend more and more time fantasizing about sex and women. It if builds up in your genitals, you will feel the need to ejaculate, either through sex or masturbation.
Therefore, if you have not breathed fully during the day, by the time you approach your sexual partner you will be filled with fantasies and ejaculative urge. So, a large part of avoiding premature ejaculation is to breathe fully, deeply, and with great force, throughout the day. Your inhales should feel like they are drawing energy down the front of your body, filling your belly and genital region. Your exhales should feel like they are moving energy from your pelvic floor, up your spine, into your head.
By breathing fully in this circle, down your front and up your spine, your internal energy can flow freely. Your head and genitals don't get clogged or tense with energy. And your urge to ejaculate is diminished.
Sex intensifies the life force in your body. As you become more and more stimulated, your breath quickens and your body begins to writhe with energy, which tends to become focused in the genital region. Unless you are careful to move this energy with your breath, it will build up in your genitals and cause a pressure that wants to be released through ejaculation.
There is a specific exercise you can perform throughout sex and also during the approach to orgasm. By doing this exercise you will convert the direction of the orgasm, so instead of ejaculating out your penis, you will "ejaculate" up your spine, experiencing intense bodily bliss and emotional openness, far beyond the quick pleasure and depleted peace following an ejaculative orgasm.
To practice this exercise, you must learn to consciously contract the muscles of the floor of your pelvis. This area includes your genitals, anus, and perineum, which is the space between your anus and genitals. This exercise of contracting your pelvic floor feels a lot like you are trying to stop yourself from going to the bathroom.
In addition to contracting the floor of your pelvis, practice pulling it upward into your body and toward your spine. This upward pull will actually lift your scrotum slightly up toward your body.
As a single movement, practice contracting and pulling upward the entire floor of your pelvis, including the anus, perineum, and genitals. You can practice this in sets of 15 or 20 contractions, holding them as long as you can. Do several sets like this, three or four times a day.
Eventually, you will be able to contract and pull up your pelvic floor easily, holding it for as long as you want. This means you have developed the necessary muscular control. Now you can practice the more subtle work of moving the energy up your spine.
At first, it may seem like you are just imagining internal energy moving in your body. But, with practice, you will more easily see or feel this energy moving. After all, it is the same energy that, during intense sexual stimulation, you have no trouble feeling build up in your genital region, which is then released through ejaculation. You can feel it building up like water behind a dam, wanting to burst out. Well, the same energy can burst upward. And when it does, you will experience an orgasm far more pleasurable than the brief burst of a typical genital ejaculation, and also far more healing and enlivening.
While you are having sex, but before you are close to ejaculating, practice contracting your pelvic floor as just discussed. While you contract it and pull upward, breathe the energy up your spine. You will have to experiment to determine whether to inhale or to exhale the energy up your spine, although most people find that exhaling up the spine works best. If you combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up your spine, you should lose just a little bit of your erection as well as the need to ejaculate. As you continue making love, repeat this exercise as often as you need to in order to maintain relaxation and openness.
Even while practicing this technique, you may notice that you occasionally come very close to having an orgasm. At this point, stop moving, apply the upward contraction of your pelvic floor, and breathe the orgasm energy up your spine. In addition to the upward contraction of your pelvic floor while breathing up the spine, some men find it helpful to clench their fists and teeth while looking upward with their eyes, especially when the urge toward ejaculation is particularly strong. With practice, however, all the muscular action becomes very subtle and gentle, until the entire exercise is done primarily through your breath, feeling, and intention.
When the energy shoots up your spine, relax and enjoy the colors, feelings, and blisses that will fill your head and rain down through your body. Once you are proficient at this exercise, you can evoke the same sensations in your partner by feeling into your partner from your heart as the orgasm shoots up your spine. The upward movement of your energy will magnetize the same movement in hers.
These practices will not be successful unless you are able to surrender as love in the midst of sexual embrace. Love is the governor of energy. More and more, you must practice being love in the form of sexual coupling. Regardless of how tough your day has been, regardless of the burdens you face in your life, sexing should be a time of practicing love. Like meditation or prayer, sex should be a special time of practicing opening your heart and giving love fully, into and through your partner, and in communion with that which you hold most sacred.
If your heart is closed, your energy will be obstructed, and you will never be able to convert your spurt to a lightening bolt of love. If you don't practice love, your sexual energy will be governed by old habits of body and emotion, which are all about the tiny commotion of ejaculation. So, if you want to expand sexual bliss as fully as possible, remember that your emotional disposition is far more important than the technical exercises themselves.
Because each individual is different, you must experiment and discover which techniques, done as exercises of love, work best for you. With practice, you will easily be able to experience deep non-ejaculatory orgasms that shoot up your body as light, leaving your heart wide-open, your energy enlivened, and your body reverberating in bliss. You will be able to make love for as long as you want, and sex will rejuvenate, rather than deplete, your life force.
In summary, this is what to remember as you experiment and discover which techniques work best for you :
1. Rather than fantasizing or entertaining inward sexual imagery of any kind, remain totally present, aware of your own body, breath, and mind, and especially attentive to your partner. Break the masturbatory habit of inward fantasy by consciously practicing sex as a relational play of love with your partner.
2. Keep your body and breath relaxed and full. Especially keep the front of your body relaxed, so that your belly is vast and your heart is soft and wide. This will help prevent too much tension from accumulating in any one area.
3. Learn to feel into, and then through, your partner, so that your attention is directed beyond your own sensations and even beyond your partner's sensations. Practice feeling outward, without limit, as if you were feeling to infinity. In other words, whatever you are feeling, feel it fully, and then feel through and beyond it, so that sex becomes a constant feeling through and beyond every sensation, rather than focusing on any particular sensation.
4. Throughout the day and during the sexual session, practice breathing so that your inhalation moves energy down the front of your body and the exhalation moves energy up your spine. Excessive, chronic thinking or addiction to ejaculation is often a sign that your energy is blocked and you are not yet breathing fully in this circle throughout the day.
5. During sex, occasionally practice the upward contraction of the floor of your pelvis while breathing sexual energy up your spine, so it fills your whole body. Especially as you begin to approach orgasm, you can combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up the spine in order to shoot your orgasm up into your brain, and even out through the top of your head, rather than down and out your genitals. This upward orgasm will then feel like it is gently seeping down through every cell of your body, saturating you with thick open light.
These techniques will be less than effective unless you practice love during sex. The natural intelligence of love itself acts to circulate energy in the most healthy way possible. These techniques are mostly exercises to counteract years of poor sexual habits, usually initiated during teenage masturbation.
After eliminating the mechanical habit of ejaculation and unobstructing your energy, the force of your heart will very naturally guide your orgasm so it explodes upward, throughout the body and brain, before raining down in a profusion of bliss, which not only rejuvenates you, but dissolves your edges like shadows in the sun.
TO DO :
#1 Get a partner, maybe multiple partners
#2 Get 3 months supply of Tongkat Ali
#3 Practice pelvic floor contraction
#4 Practice exhaling energy up the spine, till to the head
#5 Practice Love Meditation _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
is this out of your feather? _________________ "The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: his eyes are closed."
- Albert Einstein
I've been looking for such a technique for a long time. A technique to help transmute sexual energy into higher consciousness & energized chakras.
For men beyond a certain age, particularly myself, highly charged sexual energy available on a daily basis seems quite a waste. The issue is compounded when there isn't a willing partner nearby.
I'm very sure there are similar advanced techniques from other disciplines (Taoism, Indian Yogas, Esoteric Tantra etc). But these techniques are not readily available to the public.
I'm very keen to hear from members who are experienced in this area (ejaculating up the spine), especially practitioners of Mantak Chia's techniques.
Is the experience a total bliss? Thanks. _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
I've been looking for such a technique for a long time. A technique to help transmute sexual energy into higher consciousness & energized chakras.
For men beyond a certain age, particularly myself, highly charged sexual energy available on a daily basis seems quite a waste. The issue is compounded when there isn't a willing partner nearby.
I'm very sure there are similar advanced techniques from other disciplines (Taoism, Indian Yogas, Esoteric Tantra etc). But these techniques are not readily available to the public.
I'm very keen to hear from members who are experienced in this area (ejaculating up the spine), especially practitioners of Mantak Chia's techniques.
Is the experience a total bliss? Thanks.
Interesting you should mention trying these methods to achieve the blissful state... that's supposed to be the end result.
I would look into the book "The Pleiadian Tantric Workbook: Awakening Your Divine Ba", you can find it on amazon.com here:
I read this book and did all the exercises, this was about 10 year's ago. Most of the exercises are clearing ones, each chapter has several, by the end of the book you should be clear enough to raise the energy up the spine rather than ejaculate.
I went through all the clearing exercises, did the best I could and then at the end of the book there is an exercise where you almost reach ejaculation but pull the energy up instead (the author goes through all the details of this exercise, so it's very inclusive). I tried it and did not have any success. The reason for this is that the clearings you do are hard to judge to see if you really cleared the area you're working on. Blocks and so forth impede the energy, obviously, so unless you clear these.... I guess it won't happen.
The end result the author states, is a blissful state that cascades (if I remember correctly) out the top of your head, it also has an amazingly energising effect on your higher chakras, not to mention awakening them more and most likely giving you all kinds of abilities, in the long run.
So you might wish to check out this book, since it's the same goal as you already stated except that it takes on a slightly different angle, but pretty much the same as the books you read.
I DO think the bliss that you're supposed to feel can be achieved, the problem seem's to be that you have to practice many, many times and you have to be very diciplined to reach your goal. I didn't put in the long hour's or the many practice sessions.
So good luck with this if you're really into it, I hope you can achieve the command over yourself necessary to pull it off (pardon the pun).
PH _________________ "Take the risk to realign every part of your life so that it mirrors your true likes, passions, and interests." ~ Archangel Michael
I've been looking for such a technique for a long time. A technique to help transmute sexual energy into higher consciousness & energized chakras.
For men beyond a certain age, particularly myself, highly charged sexual energy available on a daily basis seems quite a waste. The issue is compounded when there isn't a willing partner nearby.
I'm very sure there are similar advanced techniques from other disciplines (Taoism, Indian Yogas, Esoteric Tantra etc). But these techniques are not readily available to the public.
I'm very keen to hear from members who are experienced in this area (ejaculating up the spine), especially practitioners of Mantak Chia's techniques.
Is the experience a total bliss? Thanks.
I have only been able to do the ejaculate up the spine once. I might be practicing wrong, but it seems very hard to do.
On the plus side though, that practice changes the sex act around a lot. I never become tired after ejaculation, I end up with a greater amount of physical and mental energy than before.
Granted, thats only with sex and not masturbation;
I think it's the practice of circulating my sexual energy during the sex act that allows for the rejuvination process to occur. I try and move the energy up from the groin area up through my Chakra's, and then back down. Like coming up along the front part of the Chakra and going down along the backside, and then continue for as long as I can.
I've gone from being exhausted after being up for 20hrs straight to feeling like I've just had a solid 9hrs sleep after a good session with my GF.
There's a section on charging the female's base chakra during sex, ala OHM from your own base chakra. Check out Part 7 : Body Practices
I've tried it. It was nice but I'm not quite there yet. Definitely different from the past. Needs more practice.
Females are the Masters of our sex, until we make a conscious choice to embrace and uphold them. _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
I've roped in a female partner for practice (she agreed!). This will be interesting as I normally hold out and allows my partner to achieve a few orgasms first before I do.
She will be instructed on the same methods I did. We shall see who generates the stronger pull! _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
I've actually been loosely practicing some of this for the last 6 weeks with my girlfriend....so this thread is well-timed. Thanks i2Wisdom!
While I am able to get into deeper levels via choreographed breathing and taking advantage of those kegal exercises, I have not been successful in raising that energy up my spine yet. I guess practice, practice, practice.
I only see my girl on the weekends and I find that by end of it I almost HAVE to release because I'm getting the 'ol blue balls reminiscent of past HS experiences...haha. I decided this weekend though that I wasn't going to release and it's already been a difficult Monday. We'll see if I make it to Friday.
On a related note, I have to say that my girlfriend thinks this is a fantastic practice to experiment with. She's walking away from every session getting bare minimum 3, usually close to high singles and sometimes double digits. Because I feel pent up, I'm more willing to go at it at a moments notice, which she has been enjoying also. So, it's definitely been fun for us so far, I just need to step up or modify my discipline and techniques it seems.
Maybe some dry run(pun intended) tactile imaging work during meditation will help this out some. I'll try that.
Stretch,
To help the energy (kundalini) move up the spine while doing your exercises you could try using either a very small ruby or red garnet stone. Either one will help, but the garnet is cheaper, the one I have only cost me one dollar.
You need to put the stone on your third-eye to get this to work. You could use some scotch tape to hold it in place. I tried this myself while lying down I put a small garnet on my forehead right over my third-eye and after a while I had a huge rush of energy hit me. It felt like I was getting angry and my face turned red, which is how the kundalini sometimes manifests. I was not doing any other exercises when I had this experience, so if you decide to go through your present exercises with your gf AND use the red stone on the forehead, you could have some really explosive experiences.
I only mention this if you get stuck and just can't get that energy to move up. In India it's been know for ages that red on the third-eye will help move the energy up, which why the women there have that little red dot on their foreheads. Using a red stone amps things up even more.
Good luck.
PH _________________ "Take the risk to realign every part of your life so that it mirrors your true likes, passions, and interests." ~ Archangel Michael
Anyone experienced success? _________________ i2w Willpower : Being unconquerable lies with yourself. | Focus : Do not see, but watch the seeing. | Visualizations : Stretch as the boundaries of the Universe.
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