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[Betty_Boop]

Ok, tell me how can I choose between 2 guys?

How can I tune in to my heart and do what it tells me?

Ill give you a bit of back ground,

guy 1, is the guy I currently live with, hes older than me. he makes me feel safe and loved I have no doubt he loves me. Although I am doubting loving him anymore. I feel we are more like best friends.

Guy 2 is younger than me and a wonderful guy he makes me laugh makes me feel sexy and loved. although Ive never met him, he lives in another country. I know I have deep feelings for him. But will we work???

I wish someone could arrange my life for me?

Your thoughts will be greatly appreciated, I do have friends I can discuss this with but they wouldnt undrstand the other guy situation.

Is the grass greener?

[Doubtless]

[prf]

give your guy some DYD material, so he'll learn how to trigger attraction , next, do john gray stuff (mars/venus), love diets.....

maybe you check this out http://www.living-alive.com/couples.htm
I want ambers email, she's so hot

[Sickgirl]

Hi Betty! I will have to agree with Doubtless. The grass is always greener on the other side, not because it truly is, but more so because you may no longer appreciate fully what you currently have (due to familiarity, proximity, I dunno). The element of the forbidden/novelty that guy2 brings with him gives you a thrill that guy1, with all the love and stability that he offers, cannot. But the thing is, no single man can fill all of a woman's needs, which are varied and sometimes, contradictory. If there is, he would certainly be a rare specie. A woman needs a stable, responsible, loving husband/partner, father of her children, but at the same time longs for that virile, macho, dangerous man, the quintessential lover who makes her scream in wild abandon and who will bring her that adventure of a lifetime (going in another country is a heck of an adventure).

So sweetie, you will have to weigh this internal conflict. Your decision of course, will be based on your own priorities. In the meantime, why don't you try to spice up your life with guy1? How about doing something you haven't done together like going camping or try something really kinky like BDSM...anything that you can do together. While the novel cannot be familiar, I personally do not subscribe to the idea that the familiar cannot be novel. There are a million ways in making everything seems like the first time all the time.

But in the end, if you still wanna leave guy1, at least you are doing it because you really can no longer be with him as a couple, and not because of a dream, as someone called guy2. As the song goes, "If the love fits, wear it baby. And if it feels good, then put it on. And if it looks right then just maybe, this love we have is where you belong."
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[Betty_Boop]

Thanks guys and girls, for your replies.

You told me what i suspected you would and all my friends would say.

i ws just holding out the hope that you would all say go for guy 2.

BTW Sickgirl. I believe guy 2 is the perfect guy and could satisfy all my needs.

But like you said I need to sort out my conflict with guy 1

[Camerlengo]

The saga continues, right? What happened after the date with MR. Right?

[katman]

Who makes you shiver? that's the right guy

[lucifer2]

hey guys and gals,

I'm a guy and I love guys. There's a guy I've set my eyes on, but he doesn't seem to notice me. (Oh, he's a boy lover as well, I know). Could a couple of cosmic bullets be of any help??
Thanks
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[maxan]

No man. What you need are guys who likes guys. That will minimize your trouble.

Don't go for guys who're girl crazy. That sets you up for the fall.
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Show me da money.

I love Jon Logan's stuff!!

[elroy]

CBs might not help getting that boy if he's already set his sights on someone.
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Just as the highest and the lowest notes are equally inaudible, so perhaps, is the greatest sense and the greatest nonsense equally unintelligible.

[Darkblade]

It can give you the vibes that athletes or high energy people radiate, but this by itself won't guarantee you attraction. Like, when you see a cool athlete with sex appeal walking down the street, do you automatically fall for them?

[Taggart]

In the question of guy 1 or guy 2, I tend to agree with Doubtless too.

Is there any way that you could meet guy 2?