Posted: Fri Oct 21, 2005 5:41 pm Post subject: Sudden positive results, now I need help!
Okay, this is going to be a long one, but I'd really appreciate it if somebody could give me a hand with this!
There's this girl at work who I have recently developed an interest in. It's weird how it happened because it was completely unintentional. Let me explain:
One day I found myself repeating her name in my head, and this carried on for a few days, then on the 3rd day she came up to me and asked for help with something, which I had spoken to her
about several days previously (so her coming up to me was not entirely unexpected, but still nice ). I said I would and we went to sit at her desk. She was completely different with
me there and then. She was really nice to me, when normally she wouldn't even make eye contact.
We sat really close together, more so than you would with someone you don't really know, and on one occasion I had to take the computer's mouse off her and I just laid my hand on top of hers. She didn't pull away, and only moved her hand away slowly after a pause.
Not long after I started thinking about her in a more visual way and thinking "I really like you" and "It was nice spending time with you today" or something like that. All the while feeling a kind of pressure in my forehead, chest and back.
It took me a while to realise it but I know now I was actually sending her these thoughts and feelings, and since then she's been really friendly with me, chatting, smiling at me, practically gave me directions to her house when I asked her where she lived, and even doing that thing women do when they're a bit shy and hide behind their hair while giving you a warm,
She never used to do that. In fact I could have almost kidded myself she was avoiding me.
So, today I decided to take things a teensy bit further and sent her a message via our office message system. Here's a transcript:
ME: Hey <girls name>. When are you going on lunch? If it's now would you like to go and grab a sandwich or something?
HER: I think I have to go later on and I'm going to shops on my lunch
She then terminated the chat, but this could have been because I was called away before I got to read her message, so to her it might have looked like I was ignoring her because she turned me down, or she just didn't want to talk to me about it and cancelled it immediately after replying.
Either way I sent a separate reply saying something like "Ok no problem".
I don't want to analyse this too much, but I think I already have. So she had prior plans, Big deal, right? At best she knows I like her enough to ask her out for lunch, so I guess that's a result. Sort of.
So where am I going with this?
I need advice. I have visualised my socks off in the past only to come up with nothing or a close approximation to what I was after, and for something like this to happen, so suddenly and strongly and seemingly almost 100% by mind power alone has caught me unawares.
It's like something's awakened in me, and now I'm firing live ammunition at live targets without proper practise and I really don't want to screw up!!
I don't want to get obsessive. I know if I get obsessive it'll transfer over to her and it'll turn into a huge barrier.
I'll admit right now I'm afraid I'll screw this up or she'll lose interest. I don't believe that is what is going to happen, but I believe it could happen.
Does anybody have any suggestions as to what I can do to improve the situation and keep her interest, and maybe even encourage her to make a move? And most of all, how not to screw up!
Suggestions please anyone?
PS I have started reading some of the free articles by David DeAngelo, so I hope that'll help.
This is precisely what I talked about in the ad copy of MLF da Babe. Psychic seduction is always best complemented with trench warfare skills.
Let's say you've already been successful in the psychic seduction arena. Now, you'll have to close it. This is almost always the truth. You will have to close it. Of course in rare instances, a woman will jump you but what are the odds of that happening ? Like that program in the Discovery channel says, women always have a higher biological investment in releationships and so they tend to be more picky/choosy with partners than men.
Now...sit back, and turn that "James Bond charm" switch on in your mind. So when she's not available for lunch, say "how about dinner then ?". Better still ask her for a mid-afternoon coffee break.
See, analyze this situation. The worst that can happen is she'll say no ! And if she does...so what ? Ask her another night. And if she's still playing those hard to get games, ask another officemate out and make sure she knows about it !
Now when you ask her out the first time, don't take her to an expensive restaurant. Take her out to a simple diner and tell her that that's where you're taking her. Something casual, something disarming. How about coffee ? Coffee is so disarming, so harmless. Dinner is the most threatening, by virtue that it can conveniently lead to sex. This is the standard RJ recommendation, ask her out to coffee.
The goal here is to spend time with her. And if you've invested the time in learning the "trench tools" of the trade, this is your opportunity to unleash it out on her. Actually, you can also unleash some on her in the course of the day. I did that on an officemate a long time ago. I'd step up to her, deliver a seduction embedded command, leave, come back, deliver another, leave, come back again, deliver a joke, then a seduction line, then leave. In time, she was really starting to feel something and we went out for dinner. Bummer she had to leave the country, but I'd chalk this one up to success.
I think you should keep the following advice in mind from a guy called Tyler Durden.
It ties in with what Jobet was saying about fancy restaurants.
"The act of doing something for a girl that you wouldn't
normally do, in the hopes of getting affection from her in
return is called "supplication".
Supplication is something that occurs when being too nice sets
up a dynamic between the two of you where it's implied that she
has a higher social value than you do, because you can't attract
her based on your personality. That could include performing
any kind of favor that has an agenda for a girl with whom you've
not already had sex, from drinks, to compliments, to flowers,
to gifts, etc."
Unfortunately, since EVERY guy does this stuff, it immediately
slots you into the category of "regular needy guy," 90% of
whom get blown off instantaneously.
On a greater context 'supplication' demonstrate a lack of (self)-love or self-worth. Supplication is exactly like shooting on your knee.
The supplicator should do what he can to increase his sense of self-worth, put the attention on himself. How do we get self-love ?
Do to you what you do to those you love, we have to love ourselve like we love a child.
You know what ? when you think constantly to someone you are with this person at an energy level, the person might not want to see you in person, since you are all the time with her at an energy level. If you withdraw completely your attention of this person and put your attention on yourself. You will create a void, the person will not sense you anymore and will be draw to you. _________________ Be High On Happinesshttp://www.highonbliss.com
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You know what ? when you think constantly to someone you are with this person at an energy level, the person might not want to see you in person, since you are all the time with her at an energy level. If you withdraw completely your attention of this person and put your attention on yourself. You will create a void, the person will not sense you anymore and will be draw to you.
That totally hit on my head. Is there a way, other than wielding your will power, to effectively withraw your attention from her and keep it on yourself?
(You know .. when you force yourself to withdraw attention from something it often backfires.)
If thoughts of other people come into your mind imagine those thoughts surrounded with light, and then let them go. The more you think to other the more you take their energy state and problems into your own being. _________________ Be High On Happinesshttp://www.highonbliss.com
Perform daily Happiness Actions and attract more abundance in your life!
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