I loved that movie Evan Almighty- especially when God (Morgan Freeman) says

“When you ask God for courage, do you think I zap you with courage? No I put you in a situation that calls for courage. When you ask God for great relationships, do you think I zap you with warm fuzzy feelings? No. I throw you in a situation that lets you exercise camaraderie.”

Beautiful isn’t it! He encapsulated in a single paragraph the secret behind The Secret. The secret behind manifestation.

You see, I’ve long understood that all those self-help programs, those manifestation methods, those attraction techniques do not ‘magically’ materialize your desire out of thin air. Rather, when you set your mind to something, you unconsciously set in motion a series of situations that inspire action.

Taking actions spells the difference between getting what you want. Or being frustrated.

Now here’s the real key to really adding magic to all your efforts. Take action today. Yep. Right Now.

Being in a perpetual ‘SomeDay’ mode will create just that… a life of wistful thinking.

Sexual desire in every relationship fluctuates between both partners.  Some stages are of course predictable.  For example, the following times are when sexual moods and patterns of lovemaking may shift: when you first marry, after your child is born, when the kids leave home, or when there is career pressure. 

Knowing this, and being confident enough to talk about it, makes intimacy stronger.  Those marriages that maintain sexual desire, strong intimacy, heated emotional bonding, and erogenous attraction all take part in the following actions that contribute to the “secret” of their marriage:  

1.  Sexual marriages do not keep affection inside of the bedroom only.  Couples whose sex lives bring them the most happiness tend to eroticize their lives.  In other words, they give affection both physically and verbally throughout the day.  They do this in different ways.  They touch, hug, kiss, and flirt.  Whether it’s reassuring or frantically passionate, touch makes the difference between making love and having sex.  Read the rest of this entry »

Before any couple can even begin to solve their problems, they must learn the ability of using anger constructively.  But is it possible to use anger in a constructive manner?  If so then how can anger be constructive?  Use it to dive into and explore the underlying cause of your arguments, and you will then find methods of addressing both of your needs. 

If getting into major disagreements with your partner interrupts your days, if arguments escalate to the point of yelling and frustration, and if you are constantly misunderstanding each other, then the following rules will help you defuse the rage and help you focus your energies on more practical strategies for change in the relationship.  Read the rest of this entry »

The Joe in question isn’t me. It’s a good friend of mine.

Born in squalor, he fought tooth and nail to survive the slums, enter a good university- and now, runs a multitude of companies.

We had a long talk over Coke Last last night (yep, beer’s no good for powerhouses) and I discovered we both lived by similar principles. These tenets helped us survive the tumult of life:

- You can’t be everything to everybody

- Don’t waste time befriending mad dogs.

- Admit there is no perfection, but strive for it nonetheless.

- Never underestimate the delight of real simplicity in lifestyle.

- Avoid unecessary complications.

- Consider first what is worth fighting for.

- Focus your mind on the pleasant aspects of life. Read the rest of this entry »

Our failings can be powerful tools to transformation. They form part of the whole. Accepting them can issue new desires. If we are willing to look at them we allow for transformation to spring forth. Resisting slams the door to change and growth. In embracing and being grateful in the Now we clear the space for the new. It also means being in the Flow and in alignment with Source Energy.

Detrimental thoughts spring from toxicity. Consuming pure foods makes the way to living a blissful life easier.

Another protocol to cleanse the body is from the Ho’oponopono technique described by Joe Vitale in his book Zero Limit, co authored by Dr Ihaleakala Hew Len. This is an ancient Hawaiian process for problems solving.

Ho’oponopono recommends a simple process of “letting go” of any “toxic energies” within you and allowing a “new space” for the healing power of the true Divine. Read the rest of this entry »

Meditation, the art of tuning in, is the perfect metaphor for shutting out your external world. When we close our eyes we flip a switch that connects us to what’s going on inside. Almost instantly we become aware of what we’re thinking and how we feel.

Try it right now. Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths. Notice this shift in energy in your body and your mind. See what I mean? When you close your eyes, you shut out the world. From this perspective you begin to notice how you feel and what you think in a way that most of us never acknowledge because of our busy lives. For example, you might notice bodily sensations like the shallowness of your breath or the beating of your heart. You notice sounds that you were oblivious to before, like the hum of your computer or the noise of passing traffic. You notice your thoughts and the busyness of your mind as it worries, plans, or overanalyzes. When you learn to connect with your breath on a regular basis by closing your eyes and breathing deeply, you calm your nervous system. Then, as your mind settles, you learn to enter into a state of thoughtlessness so you can become an objective witness to the present moment. Read the rest of this entry »

How’s your job?

If you’re the average bloke making $5000 a month, you’re in for a shocker.

Did you know that the effort to make $5000 is exactly the same as the effort to make $15,000?

Yep. Believe it. Proof: do you think The average marketing manager making $15000 is more stressed than the $5000 carpenter?

Hell no. They put in exactly the same effort to build their wealth.

So what’s the difference?

It’s mindset. Simply decide that you want to make 15000 or more a month and act accordiingly. Optimize your time. Reallocate your resources.

And you’ll blast down the doors to genuine affluence.

PS… I realized this years ago when I realized working for somebody else was crazy. Why spend 8-5 making someone rich when I could go to work for myself… and keep all the profits!?

Do you allow others to set goals that overwhelm you and leave you with feelings of doubt and fear, especially when you fail to reach them? When someone else continually sets goals for you, your sense of self-esteem is diminished. You increase your probability of following through on a task when you set the goal yourself.

When you set a goal do not allow others to restrict you by telling you that your goal is unrealistic. You have a choice. You can let their limited vision persuade you by telling yourself that they’re right or, you can persuade yourself by using positive self-talk that will help you concentrate on fulfilling your goal. Utilizing positive self-talk will prepare you for taking the necessary steps to make your goals a reality.

Changing your self-talk to clearly define and crystallize your goals and desires is the first step toward attaining them. Then, breaking up your goals and desires into manageable parts helps you to see what additional steps need to be taken to get the results you need. Initially, setting your sights to achieve a moderate amount of success is the best way to reach your goals. To reach your goal, move forward and develop a realistic plan to achieve immediate success. This will help you overcome overwhelming feelings of doubt and fear. As you complete each objective celebrate your success along the way. Read the rest of this entry »

Basically we all know what to do when it comes to our environment, and if the world were perfect we wouldn’t have to give it a second thought. The reality is that the world we live in isn’t perfect and we are only human, prey to our emotions; even though at times we know what we may be doing isn’t the best thing for us, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. And since there is so much that can pull us down and because we are constantly bombarded by negativity, all we are trying to suggest is for you to lessen your exposure to a negative environment.

Have you noticed at work that the smallest amount of negativity can erode or even paralyze someone’s home or business? Personality conflicts, political agendas, or feelings of revenge become the main focus. The negativity takes your mind off your objective, your everyday activities, your studies, or your work, and you become caught up in something that doesn’t really matter. On the personal side, I’m sure we all know someone who hates the idea of family reunions or being with friends of friends who are so strange that they must be from another planet. At work, have you ever seen or heard those at the “water cooler club”? A small band of whiners, conspirators, gossipers, whose work output is marginal at best, who know who’s been doing what to whom and for how long. Read the rest of this entry »

Want soaring Pagerank? How about in 200 days. Read on- I’ll eat my moldy hat if my secret advice fails.

BRIEF INTRO. PageRank is google’s valuation of your website. Your pagerank comes pegged on a scale from 0 to 10.

Uh- okay… so what?

Let’s make it so easy that even your cat would mewl.

Think of Pagerank like real estate pricing. The higher your site ranks on that scale, the more valuable it is in Google’s eyes. You, the webmaster, enjoy explosive benefits the higher your pagerank: your site gets indexed more often, you appear in the top ten placements and people will kill each other to advertise their site on yours. To the tune of thousands of greenbacks a month.

Bottomline: websites of considerable persuasion and influence boast high pagerank.

If your site has less than a Pagerank 4, you’re s nobody. Pagerank 5 means you’re a rising hotshot. Folks would pay $30 a month to place a link on your site. Pagerank 6 means you’re almost a god. Not only would you rank in the top ten search engine rankings for chosen keywords, you’d rake in lotsa moolah from ad revenue.

Are you mewling like a cat yet? Read the rest of this entry »