Why does everyone have to be right?

Why is it that people have to be right? Is it ego? Insecurity? A form of manipulation? Or some other reason that they are unconscious of?

I know that during my career and life I have probably been wrong more than right. So what difference does it really make?

First of all let’s establish that no one is ever right or wrong. I’ll bet that sentence will keep you reading! Let me explain.

Let’s pick any common subject. You tell me that the fish is over cooked. Or, it’s too hot outside – whatever. My response is that I think the fish is cooked perfectly right or that the weather is just fine. Now each of us could spend a great deal of time and energy trying to convince the each other that I am right and you are wrong. Granted, the temperature and the doneness of the fish are not really big issues when it comes to the need to be right but I wanted to keep the examples simple so there is no confusion about my point.
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All suffering is resistance.

We are resisting what is. Because it is not the way we want it to be, we then suffer.

The opposite of resistance is acceptance. Letting it be as it is.

Yet this is difficult. We reject what is because it is not perfect, beautiful, and true.

We think that by resisting it, we can then change it. If this worked, then suffering would not arise.

But our resistance does not lead to positive change, it leads to aversion, and we either avoid the thing or feel depressed about it.

Acceptance, on the other hand, does not mean withdrawal or resignation, it means engagement. Read the rest of this entry »

You need to ask yourself, “What limitations have I been clinging to that I should and will throw right out the window, never to look back at again?” Erik Weihenmayer went completely blind when he was 13… Since then he’s climbed the world’s tallest mountains, run marathons and jumped out of planes, among his many pursuits. Erik’s story is about having the ‘vision’ to dream big; the courage to reach for near impossible goals; and the grit, determination, and ingenuity to transform his life into “something miraculous”. If you want to learn more about Erik, his book, “Touch the Top of the World” can be found just about anywhere.

OK. So if a blind guy can climb the world’s tallest mountain… How do those excuses sound that you keep coming up with about why you can’t do that paltry little project that’s been sticking its tongue out at you for months now. People like Erik only have one thing that separates them from most everyone else; the attitude that life is to be lived; that accomplishments require some risk, and that the risks themselves can make life juicy and fun.

Now, it’s probably not required that you risk life and limb to achieve most of your goals, is it? You want some juice, don’t you? Accomplishment? Real excitement? Then set a big goal. A REALLY big goal. But whatever it is, it’s got to stretch you. It’s got to be something that you really want… something that would really change your life.

Write down all the steps it will take. Who do you have to call? Where do you have to go? Does it require special training? Do you need tools or supplies? What sacrifices do you have to make? Read the rest of this entry »

At the end of any given conversation, whether it’s with co-workers, employees, or customers, do you ever find yourself asking the following questions:
- “How many times do I have to tell them how it’s done?”
- “Why are there so many misunderstandings?”
- “Doesn’t anyone ever listen to me?”

If so, you’re not alone. In companies across the nation, communication breakdown is one of the main challenges managers deal with on a daily basis. As a result, they spend time restating their objectives to the same people over and over again, only to have the intended message still get altered or confused. Depending on the situation, communication breakdown can have severe consequences—everything from lost sales and profits to high employee turnover rates. Read the rest of this entry »

Do you ever wonder why ideas sometimes don’t seem to be forthcoming? If you’re a writer, perhaps you’ve suffered from the so-called “writer’s block.” If you fall in this category, you’re probably wondering how to knock those walls down to make way for actionable ideas.

One way is through a lot of creative writing. People frequently ask how I have been able to come up with so many articles these days for my blog, website and other projects. It did not happen overnight - I’ve been writing in one form or another since the mid 90’s.

Here’s how to dig into the well of actionable ideas within you:

1. Start a private dairy and write everything that comes to mind without regard to spelling, grammar or sentence structure. Do this for a few minutes every day for a couple of months. Don’t worry whether or not your words make sense. They are not for public consumption anyway. Like building your muscles at the gym, you are exercising your creative juices. Starting a private diary will begin to weaken the mental blockages. Read the rest of this entry »

This summer in the UK we experienced a minor heatwave for a few weeks, and the general weather conversation significantly changed.

Comments just a few a weeks previously such as “I’m fed up with wearing jumpers” and “Is summer EVER going to arrive this year?” gave way to “I don’t like this heat!” and “It goes from one extreme to the other in this country!”.

Whatever the weather, it seems we’re never happy with it…

The fact is, wherever we currently are in the world, there’s very little we can do to change the weather conditions we’re experiencing. To a degree (no pun intended) we can change what we wear and what we do - shorts and shades and eating ice cream when it’s hot and sunny, snuggling up in coats and scarves when it’s freezing cold - but we can’t actually change the weather itself, it’s outside of our influence and control.

Stop for a moment and think about how you might describe your creativity right now if it was a type of weather. Would it be sunny clear blue skies? Scattered showers? Constantly murky cold and overcast? Blizzard conditions?! Read the rest of this entry »

Folks usually ask me what’s the best way to set trends on a radionic device. I respond that win-win outcomes are always best. Everyone should experience victory. If there’s someone left holding the bag after the die is cast, there’s a chance for failure.

One thing I learned about manifestation is that cooperative, rather than coercive trends work best.

So let’s say you want a promotion. Don’t set a trend that goes

“My boss will promote me whether he likes it or not”. It will fail. Why? The boss’ subconscious will detect the manipulation, the encroachment on his free will. You will find resistance.

Instead, send something cooperative. “My boss and I enjoy an ever warm and growing friendship”

This will work. Ultimately leads to a promotion.

Want round the clock success? Ensure that personal trends are worded positively with everyone’s interest at heart. You’ll experience unity with your environment and with others. Plus, your perception of the world will acquire a delightful paradigm shift.

Tony Robbins has been an inspiration for millions. Love him and his philosophy or not, it is undeniable that he has had a positive impact on millions of people. He has sold over 30-million motivational tapes, published three best-selling self-help books, more than 2 million people attended his seminars and another 10,000 (including myself) have attended his mastery university in Hawaii. His core products include Get The Edge - Unlimited Power - Date with Destiny - Mastery University and more.

Here are the top 10 lessons that I learned from Tony Robbins:

1) By altering your body’s physiology, you can achieve an immediate change of your emotional state. The mind will follow whatever state your phsyical body is in and not vice-versa. Read the rest of this entry »

“Unless each day can be looked back upon by an individual as one in which he has had some fun, some joy, some real satisfaction, that day is a loss.”

Dwight David Eisenhower (1890-1969) 34th US President

My daughter has a swimming lesson once a week in the term time. It gives me half an hour or more to read and make notes. However, at the last lesson we were a bit early, so my daughter asked if she could play solitaire on my mobile (cell) phone. That was fine, as I didn’t need it, but she suddenly rushed off to her lesson, leaving me with a half-played game. So I decided to finish it.

And there I was, still playing, when she came out after the lesson! Initially I thought that I SHOULD read the book I had brought along with me (On the subject of Confidence Building) and that I really OUGHT to make some notes. Then I decided to go with the flow, enjoy the games of solitaire and have some FUN! I realized that I am as guilty as the next person of feeling that I should be doing all the time. I very rarely sit down to watch TV, as usually I am standing in front of the ironing board, tackling the washing mountain. I hardly ever read a book any more without it being relevant to my job, and much as I enjoy them, I think I need to lose myself every so often in the wonderful world of fiction. Sometimes I need to do just nothing! Read the rest of this entry »

“I don’t get it. Why is my boss heading up my organization when there are much smarter people under him?’ a seminar participant asked recently. It was obvious to all of us that she was frustrated.

Since I didn’t know her boss, I couldn’t really answer, but if her boss is like many managers I’ve known, the answer is simple — self-confidence.

“Do you remember that girl in high school who really wasn’t that pretty, or even nice, but she was still popular?” I asked. “She had something about her that attracted others to her — self-confidence.”

“Instead of getting angry, maybe it’s time for you to take a page out of your boss’ book. After all, he must be doing something right,” I suggested.

I explained that someone who is confident is very attractive. And each of us has the power be self-confident. In fact, studies reveal that most of us secretly think we’re better than everyone else. We rate ourselves as more dependable, smarter, friendlier, harder-working, less-prejudiced, and even better in the sack than other people. Read the rest of this entry »