Most NLP practitioners tend to use hypnosis and NLP to coax people out of limiting beliefs- such as fear of public speaking. This gives NLP a “fixit” reputation. Got a problem? Here’s NLP. Go Fix.

Now here’s a respected Ph.D who uses it for more fun stuff. How fun? Get this: to create the oft impossible objective of 70% of males out there: the Big Orgasm.

Yep, You heard that right. Orgasm.

I just came across a recent blog post of his detailing how he easily creates the automatic Orgasmic Response in clients. Check out his hypnotic spiel:

with every number I say, your pussy gets more and mnore sensitive and you feel that erotic charge throughout your entire body so that with each number you become much much more aroused, perhaps even one hundred times more horny/aroused and when I reach the number one you explode in a wonderful orgasm . . . five . . . four . . . three . . . four . . . three . . . almost there . . . two . . . get ready . . . three . . . two . . . at the next number . . . one . . . boom” or some such

Woah. If you’re a woman, I can already imagine the quivers that must have started at your belly and crept down your…

Anyway. Let’s leave it G-rated shall we?

If you’re already excited (cmon admit it), you must visit Brian’s Blog. Brian David Philipps, Ph.D is one of the rare clinical psychiatrists who won’t bore you to death like most Dr.’s you’d know.

Recall the last basketball game you attended.

Where you the player or the spectator?

There’s a stark difference between the two.

Players live IN the game, experiencing an adrenaline rush and living every moment in constant focus, drive and passion. They make things happen, exerting consistent actions committed to a goal.

Despite the risk of winning or losing, players are fully alive.

The spectator, on the other hand, sits from the stands. He watches and observes. His pulse pounds mildly- after all he experiences triumph or defeat vicariously from his preferred team.

Now here’s the difference: spectatorship costs you big time. It costs you the actual experience of the game.

The player literally forgets the rest of the world- time dilates and contracts as he pours his soul into competitive action.

The spectator watches indifferently, cheering when hoops are burnt and jeering when fouls are called. The former definitely enjoys the moment far more.

Are YOU living life as a player or spectator?

One thing I’ve observed with many folks is that they go through life forever experiencing great accomplishments saying “Someday, I’ll do that” “Someday I’ll do what Bill Gates did” “Someday I’ll ask that great woman out.”

Someday.

Say “Someday” often enough and you’ll never get around to doing anything at all. You’ll forever be a spectator. Never a player.

Isn’t this shortchanging yourself?

Someday is a deadly mindset. It prevents you from fully taking responsibility for living your life. Someday eases your Soul out of the equation of life.

I dare you. Turn your “Somedays” into “TODAY”. You’ll attract the grandest opportunities into your life and breathe new life into your soul.

Today!

Since Day ONE of the creation, blokes like you and I searched for that elusive reason to life.

“Why are we here?”

“What is our purpose?”

“Does the world follow some rhyme or reason?”

And check out the great books and authors that elaborated on the idea: Summa Theologica, The Egyptian Book of the Dead, The ‘Quoran, The Bible, Jean Paul Sarte, Socrates, Paulo Cohello, Donald Trump.

Okay, I arbitarily inserted up that last name.

But seriously. You never realized you were in the company of such eminence! Give yourself a pat on the back, Mr. Philosopher.

Stop, and consider how, after all that rheotoric, prose, and giddy exhortation, few of these dissertations truly arrived at some enlightening, jaw dropping Meaning of Life that literally gave you the golden answer to your personal existence. (people still keep searching!) (more…)

Cortisol apparently arises from stress and this helpful blog entry gave a clue on avoiding this deadly chemical. Here’s a snippet:

The key to escape cortisol though… is to change your voice… run from negative people… go for a walk… or find some tangible way to be good to you until cortisol stops surging in your brain and positive tone returns. What do you think?

Link to the whole article is here:
Cortisol

To this I’d like to add one special technique I use to minimize stress.

And that’s to stop the inner voice that whispers “There’s Something Wrong Here” when something does go wrong (well, according to your standards)

Okay. It’s traffic. What happens? You grumble, cuss and think “Something’s wrong here”

Your girlfriend is silent. She’s giving the cold shoulder and you think “Something’s wrong here”

Such thinking builds up stress fast. Deathly fast.

Find peace by simply accepting things at face value. And saying “everything’s ok. I can manage!”

Something lurks in us that demands fulfillment.

It is an inner desire to achieve our best possible self, to go through life at our finest level! You I and everyone nurses an inner drive to personal greatness- to grasp that star of Akabar. Since this is a subliminal desire, it does not often fully surface in our everyday consciousness. Folks don’t even quickly understand that they even have it.

Nonetheless, our subconscious drive to greatness rests below the annals of our minds. And magically, our subconscious, being goal seeking, exerts effort to fulfill it.

Still, thousands fail to act to better themselves so that they can achieve superior greatness that can easily be theirs. They settle for mediocrity- or even yield completely. This unleashes an inner conflict between what they are and the greatness which their souls lust for in their lives. (more…)

You can sell Benzes to refugees during war time.

You easily part a nun from her vow of chastity.

No doubt- you’re the greatest at influencing people one-on-one.

But can you conduct killer power point presentations?

If you’re like 99% of all the presentors out there, I bet you ‘re a veteran at observing the MEGO Syndrome in audiences.

MEGO?

“Mine Eyes Glaze Over”

That’s right. Three minutes into the powerpoint presentation, the audience is restless. Some begin sneaking out the door. The more polite ones just pretend to listen behind dark spectacles. But you know where their minds went.

The MEGO Syndrome arises from five monumental presentation mistakes. Do the opposite and you’ll deliver utterly drool worthy power point presentations- and influence the socks out of your crowd.

1. Keeping Them Guessing. Many speakers fail to give a roadmap of their speech. So throughout the presentation, the crowd is asking ‘huh? What’s his point? Where’s this leading to?’ Guide them by the hand. Before the actual presentation, outline exactly what you’ll cover and let them know when you’ll finish.

2. Failing to Connect At the Beginning. Audiences don’t like to be preached to. They’d prefer to be talked with. Keep your style interactive. Open the talk by asking a rhetorical question, launching an anecdote, or saying a shocking statement- then invite a comment! You’ll draw them in like Pirahnnas to a pork buffet.

3. Looking at the Floor and Closing Your Body. I’ve seen it so often. The speaker assumes a closed body language. Guilty of this? Hands in pocket. Arms crossed. Legs tight together. Look stiff, and you alienate the audience. To invite the audience to appreciate your power point presentation, move around. Gesture. Smile!

4. DataDumping. I’ve attended hundreds of business presentations where the speaker fills the slide with size 9 font text crammed to the margin. Then they read each line. Good lord! We’re attending a presentation, not an online reading course! The best slides follow the 4 by 4 rule. Four words across, four bullets down.

5. Forgetting the Call of Action. At the end, the speaker jumps to “any questions?” without giving the audience a specific command. Is it to buy? To invest? To visit a website? Without the call to action, the audience is left wondering what you yammered about for the last 20 minutes of their valuable time.

So here’s my call to action for you: create drool worthy powerpoint presentations. Right now.
Your audience deserves it

I’ve seen intelligent folks negotiated out of a great bargain, denied of a critical bank loan, flunk at an IPO road show and even kicked out of their houses by their spouses.

Just for one reason.

They simply can’t meet halfway. The negotiation starts with both parties neither yielding nor accomodating. Each one is simply preoccuppied with getting the most out of the negotiation encounter.

Poor negotiation skills lead to misunderstanding, then suspicion, then ultimately withdrawal. It’s the fastest way to lose not just your shirt - but your associates and friends. (more…)

Imagine for a moment that it’s Monday. The alarm clock rings at six. It’s like a thunderclap cutting through the haze of yesterday’s white whine and three hours worth of Friend’s rerun.

So you get up… and accidentally bang your knee on the bedpost. Dark murderous thoughts fire across your neurons as you amble to the bathroom where you stub your toe.

Bam. Suddenly everything and everyone is public enemy number one.

You snarl at the wife handing you eggs.

You froth at Junior offering you coffee.

And you kick the fat hairy walking sofa licking your hand.

The rest of the day obviously spiralled for the worst- in fact you almost get fired for biting off the boss’ head.

That’s the Law of Attraction working against you. What you think and feel attracts the same. The Law of Attraction is simply the manifestation of your mind in the real world.

Let’s do a little experiment.

Hold out your arms and ask a friend to push it down as you think of something great- like when you snagged a promotion or enjoyed a night of steamy sex. He’d have difficulty pushing.

Now repeat the same while thinking about debts, bills, war or your in-laws.

He should push it down very easily. What gives?

Your mind transforms your body. Simple as that. What you think and feel empowers or weakens you.

Do you want to go around the world lugging a bunch of energy-sapping emotions? Or do you want to dominate your environment?

Here are five amazing tips I’ve implemented to explode the power of attraction in my life:

1) Always ask yourself “What Great Things Can I accomplish today” upon getting up. This sets the tone of your day and primes you attract positive opportunities.

2) Always be grateful for the things you took for granted. Like simply that you’re breathing. Say “Thank you, Im still breathing! Im luckier than that bloke under the tombstone.” Gratitude naturally and easily conditions you for affuence and attracts more empowered men and women into your life.

3) Something bad happen? Shrug it off and flick it from your jacket like lint. This action rapidly kicks any negative thoughts that may attract bad things into your day.

4) Hang out only with positive people. Like attracts like. Remember that.

5) And finally… treat people the way the expect to be treated. They will reciprocate and hold you in high regard. Build your social network on the right foot and expect to fly to the top of your aspirations. Attract the right people, support them and they will attract for you the right conditions for success!

Know what? just this morning, before I popped open my laptop, a heretical thought crossed my head.

It’s this: planning and anticipating your retirement is like insurance policy. Never Ever take it as the sole reward to the years of working. It is a mere hedge against what we all fear at the end of life: becoming so decrepit,that we can’t physically mow lawns to buy ourselves a Happy Meal.

To my mind, retirement as the final goal of an executive is darn stupid for three critical reasons. (more…)

If you’ve reached the end of your rope, STOP. Stand back for a moment to drink in the big picture. Then take a large sheet of paper and brainstorm. Write down everything that you feel led to this dire moment.

Keep writing. Don’t analyze. It’s time for a massive data dump.

Do this for 5 minutes.

Then stop. Step back and look at the sheet. You’ll see a pattern. (aha! Do I hear a “Voila”?)

Now you know what you might want to do better. What to avoid.

What new thing to try.

Now fold that up and ask yourself… what else can I do that’s different from what Im doing now?

Do the same data dump.

Then check for patterns.

You’ll surprise yourself!