Discover the Magic of Positive Focusing

There is a fallacy that to hit our goal we ought to “think positive” all the time. No, we need not “think positive” 24/7. We don’t even have to imagine positively all the time. To triumph - to fulfill our personal quests - all we have to do is keep focused on our aspirations and keep moving to it.

Let’s say person X, person Y and person Z all set out for the same objective. They commence at the same place simultaneously. Person X is a positive thinker, person Y is a positive focuser, person Z is both a positive thinker and a positive, rabid focuser.

At the “Go,” person X decides to sit down and do a little positive thinking to help prepare for the journey. Person Y focuses on the goal and gets moving. Person Z gets moving, too.

Person X observes an area of unpositiveness within, and continues to sit, working hard to remove the “darkness” before initiating on the journey. Person Y does not like the road, hates the rules, dislikes the weather, abhors the planned lunch, etc., but keeps chugging toward the goal nonetheless. Person Z keeps fighting, too, while relishing the flowers, waving at travellers, singing, and thinking what good exercise all this movement is. (more…)

If you and your loving partner are having difficulties within the relationship then there is no doubt that fighting and arguing has occurred, and probably on more than several occasions. Sometimes a relationship gets to the point of constant arguing with both members but if your goal is to make things better, then you must learn to be strong if your girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse bursts into anger over a situation.

Below are five ideas to help you to remain strong when your partner loses control with his or her anger. Simply find out which ones will work for you.

1. Be understanding by learning to really listen to your partner’s anger. I know it is not easy to do this when you are being bombarded with a catapult of insults and accusations, because most of us react too quickly with angry accusations of our own. This is especially true when our own “hot buttons” are pushed and we are faced with harsh words of the past or old issues are brought up. Just try to ignore your own reactive nature by trying to listen more to your partner. (more…)

I loved that movie Evan Almighty- especially when God (Morgan Freeman) says

“When you ask God for courage, do you think I zap you with courage? No I put you in a situation that calls for courage. When you ask God for great relationships, do you think I zap you with warm fuzzy feelings? No. I throw you in a situation that lets you exercise camaraderie.”

Beautiful isn’t it! He encapsulated in a single paragraph the secret behind The Secret. The secret behind manifestation.

You see, I’ve long understood that all those self-help programs, those manifestation methods, those attraction techniques do not ‘magically’ materialize your desire out of thin air. Rather, when you set your mind to something, you unconsciously set in motion a series of situations that inspire action.

Taking actions spells the difference between getting what you want. Or being frustrated.

Now here’s the real key to really adding magic to all your efforts. Take action today. Yep. Right Now.

Being in a perpetual ‘SomeDay’ mode will create just that… a life of wistful thinking.

The Joe in question isn’t me. It’s a good friend of mine.

Born in squalor, he fought tooth and nail to survive the slums, enter a good university- and now, runs a multitude of companies.

We had a long talk over Coke Last last night (yep, beer’s no good for powerhouses) and I discovered we both lived by similar principles. These tenets helped us survive the tumult of life:

- You can’t be everything to everybody

- Don’t waste time befriending mad dogs.

- Admit there is no perfection, but strive for it nonetheless.

- Never underestimate the delight of real simplicity in lifestyle.

- Avoid unecessary complications.

- Consider first what is worth fighting for.

- Focus your mind on the pleasant aspects of life. (more…)

How’s your job?

If you’re the average bloke making $5000 a month, you’re in for a shocker.

Did you know that the effort to make $5000 is exactly the same as the effort to make $15,000?

Yep. Believe it. Proof: do you think The average marketing manager making $15000 is more stressed than the $5000 carpenter?

Hell no. They put in exactly the same effort to build their wealth.

So what’s the difference?

It’s mindset. Simply decide that you want to make 15000 or more a month and act accordiingly. Optimize your time. Reallocate your resources.

And you’ll blast down the doors to genuine affluence.

PS… I realized this years ago when I realized working for somebody else was crazy. Why spend 8-5 making someone rich when I could go to work for myself… and keep all the profits!?

How to you spend your free time?

Let me see. If you’re one of the millions of corporate blokes out there, you laze in front of TV, get drunk, read some old Men’s magz or just doze off. And while you’re at it, your brain shrinks while your belly bloats.

Aha! Is that a blush on your cheek? I thought so.

Leisure time that’s simply passive downtime is a monumental waste of time. It’s time that could have been spent more productively and yet enjoyably.

Consider the following activities that can get you a major rush. (more…)

I got a pile of stuff. Collections of old laptops, comics, shirts that no longer fit and even tax returns from 1997.

“Joe,” I told myself “I gotta throw some out. Otherwise, how can new stuff come in?”

Sigh. Till 2006, I never followed through on my self-chastisement. The stuff keeps piling up and investing in new cabinets added to the stuff.

How many of you suffer from the collection bug?

Stepping back, I realize that collecting nonestop can be dysfunctional at times. It’s the mind whispering, “you better hoard, coz you’ll never get something like this again.”

That’s a self-defeating mindset. It gets you on a poverty mode of thinking.With such thoughts, its impossible to see new opportunities and take on grand challenges that may truly expand one’s horizon’s beyond the current myopic view. Why? You’ll perpetually be hiding, hoarding and protecting. How can you grow under such conditions- how can you attract things beyond what you already have?

Today, I begin throwing out stuff.

If you’ve just graduated college, you’ve probably begun hiding away all those books and papers. Finally: freedom!! It’s time to get really rich and make a name for yourself. Career. That’s the real world, right?

Wrong.

Graduation is no excuse to stop the learning process. Failure to study is folly! The new information your constantly process determines your edge in life. School learning is static and often decades out of date.

Here’s how to grow your IQ by 50%- after college. (more…)

Someone cuts you off. Do you holler?

The last parking slot is taken. Do you scream?

The boss fires you. Did you jump the building?

If you said yes to any, I’m sorry to say, you’re a weakling. You simply react to events instead of choosing your own response.

The real movers and shakers chose proactively. The decide on positive behaviours that serve them well. In other words, they choose to be the cause of events. Not the effects.

Here are some tips you can use to rule your reality.

1) Before you react to something, ask yourself: does this serve me well?

2) Take the initiative. If you know you’ll be fired, resign.

3) Pretend you have just 30 minutes to live. How’d you do it?

4) Take ten seconds before acting on something. This prevents brash moves

5) When you’ve made your decision, don’t look back. Be consistent! Remember: never excuse your decisions. It’s your right!

Did you notice how some people are just so insanely happy? Sling all the insulting barbs you want or hurl impossible tasks their way and yet they keep on ticking. Blissfully. Happily.

And that makes you drip with envy all the more.

A small segment of the population come factory-built with a natural propensity for positive outlook. They’re hardwired with copious amounts of zest. This zest easily shields them from the buffets of life that normally faze the rest of us.

Recently scientists discovered how the naturally occuring-drug serotonin flows more generously in such individuals. Serotonin is magic. It’s a chemical produced in the amygdala and can give far more pleasure signals than cocaine or marijuana can. No wonder happy people are unstoppable! They’re simply cocooned in bliss that rose-tints the blight of the world!

Wouldn’t you love to experience their reality?

Try these three tips now!

1) Discover what you REALLY want and enjoy your passions. Is it drawing? Painting? Designing web pages or collecting toys? The more you do what you want, the faster you pump out serotonin and create an inner zest.

2) Give unconditional love and respect. Face it, connection with others creates that warm fuzzy feeling inside. That fuzzy feeling expands into unmitigated, explosive joy when done regularly. Imagine how unstoppable you’ll be when you feel loved- and are loved!

3) Take an inventory of your thoughts. The next time a depressing, critical or evil thought swims into view, ask yourself ‘Does this Serve Me Well?’ If it doesn’t, chuck it!

Fly high!