Know what holds most people from true success? It’s coz they live a life of Somedays….

Do these musings sound familiar?

“Someday, I’ll be rich…”
“Someday, I’ll find the right one…”
“Someday, I’ll start that business…”

Geez! If you think like that, Someday will never happen. You’ll push ‘it’ so far into the future that you’ll be dead before anything happens.

There’s just one way out. Next time you say “Someday”, replace it with “TODAY. ”

Then magic will really begin.

Let’s face it: people often judge you by appearance. It’s not ideal of course. We prefer to be evaluated on basis of what’s inside: intellect, wit, accomplishments, charisma. The problem is, before folks can see that, they gravitate to you the basis of your external appearance.

Dressing well, therefore, and projecting a polished image is necessary.

Let two girls bat for a job. Assume both possess the same charm, wit and exemplary resume. Who’d get the job? Obviously the sassier-dressed. It’s all got to do with Cialdini’s Principle of Likability: we find ourselve’s drawn to attractive people projecting a delightful package.

Fortunately, image projection need not be expensive, what with numerous online retailers of fashionable apparel. Like ShopBop. I recently stumbled across this community of fashionistas that offer more than products: they also proffer fashion guides that help you to look your best 24/7.

Shopbob’s a good place to begin your image projection overhaul. Check it out!

I’ve been surfing the web for new material I could use in my upcoming dating workshops and noticed something: many gurus espouse highly structured forms of hypnosis to create attraction. The preferred method is via ‘neurolinguistic seduction’, a system that requires the use of trance words, embedded commands and tonal patterns. Is it effective? You bet! The downside is that only advanced conversationalists can use these techniques. Let a newbie try it out and he’ll get laughed out of the bar. And slapped.

I did come across another site that uses more natural and spontaneous forms of attraction to get a girlfriend. The SeductionBible teaches simpler forms of rapport building through fluff talk, criteria elicitation- and yes getting a woman to laugh! Now these are approaches that I believe absolute beginners can use to score while enjoying a nightlife.

Check out the SeductionBible. You’ll be delighted

After 6 months of having been downgraded to PR4, we finally made it back to Pagerank5. Let me extend my thanks to our loyal customers who continue to talk about us in their respective blogs and sites. You’ve helped us grow as we helped you nurture that Magic back into your lives.

Fly high!

Success Tip: Alter Your Perceptions To Reduce Stress Levels

Your life each day can be viewed as a stream of connected events - some positive and some not so positive. The not-so-positive or negative events can cause great stress, but they have only the stress-producing power over you that you assign to them. Separate your perceptions, opinions, and value judgments of a negative event from the event. Affirm to yourself, “It’s just an event” and you will avoid triggering stress reactions.

Because time proceeds in one direction only, you do not have the power or the option to change the outcome of an event. But you have total power to choose how or whether you will respond or react to the event, thereby influencing succeeding events and outcomes. It is likely that, because of different beliefs, values, and opinions, four people who see exactly the same event will relate and react to it totally differently. But beliefs, values, and opinions are always in the mind, not in the event. Use that knowledge to separate your emotions from the events that occur in your life. (more…)

In order to reach great heights of success and happiness, whatever that means for you, you must start by taking inventory of your life and writing down what unfinished business that you need to complete.

Work: What tasks at work have been left without being finished? Is your work schedule manageable? Is your office a mess? Do certain jobs seem to wait stacked up on your desk forever? When was the last time you cleaned out your files? How orderly is your desk? What changes can you make at work, to create an ideal place where you can live your dream? Have you been intending to ask for a raise?

Are your travel and expense reimbursement forms up-to-date? What about other records you are responsible for keeping? What meetings need to be scheduled? What equipment needs repair? What improvements would you recommend? What have you been wanting to communicate to your employer, your employees or your coworkers? Any letters that could be written? Make a plan to do these things now.
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Just as other people’s words affect you, the words that you say to yourself also affect your attitude. Whether you feel negative or positive depends on the input that you get, including the input you get from yourself. You can’t change from a negative mindset to a positive mindset without changing from negative talking to positive talking. To do that, you must change the input from negative to positive.

Using positive affirmations is a proven technique that works miracles in many lives. Ideally, you should look yourself in the eye as you make these positive affirmations. Don’t be shy; go ahead and get started! Repeat the following statements to yourself every morning to get your day and week off to a great start: (more…)

Possibly the trickiest part of getting what you want in life is just figuring out what you really want! And yet it is certainly the most important part of all. Remember that setting goals does not mean that you are stuck with those goals. You can change them as often as you want to and feel that it’s necessary.

Remember also that setting goals does not mean that you have to pursue them through effort, striving, or struggling. It does not mean that you have to become emotionally addicted to achieving them. On the contrary, setting goals can help you flow through life more easily, effortlessly, and pleasurably. The nature of life is movement and creativity, and goals give you a clear focus and direction in which to channel your natural creative energy, thereby helping you to outflow and contribute to the world, which enhances your feeling of well-being and satisfaction in life. Goals are there to help you and support you in your true purpose.

Goals can be made in the spirit that life is an enjoyable game to be played, and one that can be deeply rewarding. They are not to be taken too heavily or seriously. At the same time, you must give them enough weight and importance so they are of real value to you. (more…)

Children are exposed to many different values. They receive conflicting and confusing messages about values because many adults in their lives do not share the same value system. Parents who want to see their children grow up happy and successful will want to help their children sort out the right messages from the wrong ones. Here are 8 steps to take as you share your value system with your children.

1. Identify your own values. Before you can teach your children, you need to be clear about what you want them to learn. Don’t take a casual approach to this important parental responsibility. Take the time to develop a complete list of those qualities you plan to teach your children.

2. Tell your children what your values are. Learn to state clearly and concisely what you believe and how these values influence decisions in your life. When telling your children about your values, paint word pictures, use analogies, and tell stories. Have your children tell you what you said to ensure that you have communicated clearly. (more…)

Setting a target date is essential to the effective completion of each of the goals you have listed for your life. A target date is the realistic date by which you think your goal can be completed or reached. A target date is based in part on desire and in part on what is both possible and practical.

As you write each of your goals, set an initial target date for its completion. Since, in general, a goal is something you intend to have accomplished within one year, your target date will normally fall within the next twelve months. There is, of course, a fine line between desire and possibility. Though you might desire to accomplish your goal by tomorrow at the latest, the reality is that the accomplishment of any goal takes time. The amount of time required is usually a function of the resources, money, and knowledge needed, as well as the number of other steps you must take to accomplish the goal. Your aim is to pick a target date that combines the best of desire with the best of what’s possible. (more…)