Powerful people command invincible self-belief and little can strip them of their self-worth. They bounce back again and again. Would you like to feel like this? You wield all that it takes to seize what you want and to coast the triumphs and tribulations that life throws at you. Few enjoy a smooth ride- but imagine how you will feel  if you shortchange yourself by refusing to give opportunities a try?

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The quickest way to enhance your circumstances is to change yourself and you have been born with the tools to achieve this.  Realize that when life throws you a curve ball, you face three options: 1) To duck and look for a scapegoat, 2) To be the scapegoat, 3) To react powerfully.

Seeking for and becoming the scapegoat tend to be options of the martyr or victim. While it seems foolish, there are payoffs to this avenue:  to validate low self-esteem, to evade responsibility, to offload blame on others, to avoid rocking the boat, to minimize risk. (more…)

Are You Making These 7 Deadly Mistakes With Women Without Even Knowing It?

Mistake # 1: Being Like Every Other Guy

Once upon a time, there was a man who saw a very attractive woman.
He was very nice and polite around her.

When he mustered up the courage to actually talk to her, he said one of the following lines: (more…)

It can be annoying to walk into a store and have the clerk serve you last. Or to walk into an elevator and have people bump into you like you were a ghost. And everyone’s pet peeve:  feeling that the waiter’s ignoring you. If you suffer from this it means, people don’t respect you. There’s a way to change all that in a flash.

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Flashback 2001. While I didn’t look as bouncy as Mr. Canine here, I certainly felt just as  bloated as he looked.  The reason? I was about 10 pounds overweight. My dietician blamed a slow metabolism. I simply blamed Ronald McDonald for setting up shop next door.

I felt lousy when guys in muscle shirts strode past. Here I was, clad in flashy Prada but my physique made me sag like a duck next to these lean dudes in tattered Levis. Something had to be done. So I did what every fat slob was doing: popped the Hydroxycut, did the Atkins and hit the iron. It didn’t work. (more…)

Being nice is nice. It gives you a warm glow inside helping out your fellow man. Sometimes, however, you feel that you’re too nice. A friend calls you, asks a favor, and despite the pile up of obligations, you say yes. Of course, it was nice that you came to his rescue, but you feel depressed that you failed to stand up for yourself.  So, when is the right time to say no to someone? How do you know what moment to assert yourself?

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Fighting is actually healthy. Remember the last debate you indulged in? It helped you and your spouse air issues and reach compromises. Sure there was a bit of yelling and sobbing- but that’s better than keeping quiet and boiling in resentment. (more…)

Feeling down in the dumps? Sometimes, your brain chemicals plummet to the point that no matter what you do, you can’t shake the blues. Before you reach for the pills, step outside. The sun gave Superman his powers- it can do the same for you in seconds. (more…)

Jesus Christ was the ultimate self-help guru. He may not have worn the flashiest robe nor ridden a high horsepower donkey, but he did amazing things. Who else in man’s history healed the blind, turned water into wine, and gave us the Golden Rule which revolutionized the way we treat each other.  Remember that sublime piece of wisdom, so utterly beautiful in it’s simplicity? The Golden Rule exhorted:

Do Unto Others As You Would Have Others Do Unto You.

It works well… most of the time. (more…)

NLP Chunking

Have you ever:

Been stuck in a negotiation or argument and not been able to find common areas of agreement?
Needed to quickly and easily think laterally?
Felt overwhelmed with an activity?
Wanted to get something done, but did not feel excited about it?
Chunking can help you get past these obstacles.

What is Chunking?

In NLP, ‘chunking up’ refers to moving to more general or abstract pieces of information. While ‘chunking down’ means moving to more specific or detailed information.

To chunk up on a piece of information, use one or more of the following questions:

What is this an example of?
What is this a part of?
What is the intention?
For what purpose?
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