Here are 5 simple yet effective persuasion tactics you may use everyday to build loyal and lasting relationships through the power of persuasion and influence.

Tactic # 1: You Must Enter Their World.
Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they think. If they rub their forehead while they think, act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called mirroring. In due time, the people you’re mirroring will subconsciously feel more comfortable with you. It’s as if they see themselves in you. However, you must proceed with caution. Do not let them be aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and you’ll just get into trouble.

Tactic # 2: Meet Their Existing Needs and Desires.
People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantageous benefits to them than to your own, then they will probably accept it. If you could focus more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established. Satisfy the “What’s In It For Me?” test first, before convincing others to do what you want them to do.

Tactic # 3: Provide Them with Compelling Evidence.
Explain to them how your ideas or suggestions could be the most effective techniques to implement. Show them undeniable proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation. Be friendly and nice. Smile to brighten up the day. Make a sincere compliment to raise their spirits. Little things like these count a lot. Make them feel that whenever they need help or just someone to look up to, you’ll always be there to lend a hand. They would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust.

Tactic # 4: Communicate Wittingly But Clearly.
Most people, if not all, would like to be accepted and to be perceived as likeable in the eyes of others. But what if you have to tell something undesirable to your friend, which is just for his or her own good? How can you get your message across without hurting their feelings? Substitute negative statements with positive ones. Instead of saying “You don’t understand,” say “Let me explain.” Instead of remarking “You’re wrong,” say “Permit me to clarify.” Instead of stating “You failed to say,” just mention “Perhaps this was not stated.” There are certain words that affect a person more negatively in comparison with other words that have the same meaning.

Tactic # 5: Agree with Them First…
Nothing could be more pleasing to the ear than hearing someone else say that you are right. In this case, be prepared to let other people know that you respect their opinions. You may add your comments at the end, but acknowledge them first. Say: You’re right, although … Great suggestion, however … I agree with your opinion, however … I would feel the same way if I were you, although … I understand your situation, however … Reassure your counterparts that the decision made will benefit both parties. People need to feel that they have made the right choice.

Michael Lee is the author of the highly acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader… In 20 Days or Less. It reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to greatly enhance your relationships, boost your career and business, and persuade anyone to willingly and eagerly do what you want… without them knowing it

Fortunately asserting oneself is easy because we have a built in mechanism that detects abuse. Heed this mechanism and you’ll never sacrifice your dignity again.

The mechanism is your GUT. Your gut is churns when something is wrong – like when you’ve been shortchanged or given a task beyond your responsibility. It’s a clarion call for you to speak out.

The next time that gut rumbles, don’t think. Act right away. Voice your concern on the spot. Say “I don’t feel good about this because… and I want…..”

This simple behavioral change will transform you from a weakling and into a leader. Then people take notice. You win respect!

Are you ready to live a better life?

There’s a way to get things done with a smile.

Our mindset governs the driving force of our action. What do you think when you’re about to accomplish something?

“I have to do this”

“I must accomplish this”

“It’s my job”

“It should be done”

Thinking in terms of  ‘shouds’ and ‘musts’ demotivate us because we feel coerced. It robs us of choice… even if there is choice (otherwise you won’t be doing it). There is, however, an elegant way of re-empowering our decision to toil. It is to think this way:

“I am glad to do this”

A simple mind shift and BAM! You’ll suddenly see rainbows in the sky.

Gotta mop the floor? Think to yourself, “I’m happy to mop this floor!”

Try it.

But this isn’t the case. We hide our emotions from the world so well, that we end up hiding our sentiments even from ourselves. Often, I’d talk with a friend or colleague and ask them how they felt. I’d get an honest answer saying, “Uhmm… I don’t really know.”

Wow. People who are out of touch with their true feelings often lagged in self-esteem. I’m sure you’ve notice that. Are you one of them?

I urge you to check your feelings throughout the day. Every hour, take a breather. Ask yourself “How am I feeling right now”. Then discern the reason why.  Often we find that there’s no basis for feeling depressed or anxious. In this case- ask yourself “What’s the worst that can happen for xxxxx”. You’ll quickly realize it’s easy to leap into a blazingly constructive frame of mind with this technique.

Take inventory of your feelings. Be true as to the cause. Then make the conscious effort to choose a better frame of mind if it isn’t serving you well.

You’re ready to scream.

Whenever a particular sequence of unfortunate events  conspire to bring you down, how do you cope? I’m sure you’ve gone through hell like this and you’ve been farthest from sentient. Were you rational? Maybe you hit suicidal. Stress eventually leads to volcanic eruption and the poor fella you finally yell at had nothing to do with your day’s misfortunes.

Before you reach the point of no return, try the following tactic to unwind in a second:

• Seek out a quiet, private spot.
• Lock the door.
• Stretch out your mouth really wide and flex your entire body.
• Throw your fists to the heaven and scream- to your heart’s content.
• Relax.
• Rinse and Repeat.

Ah…. didn’t that feel better? Now you’re in control once again.

 You want rapport? Then always mine for similar attitudes, likes, dislikes, cultural backgrounds, virtues, experiences, career objectives, and values. Highlight the commonalities in your conversation and behavior. You’ll create instantaneous attraction even with total strangers!You see, creating similarity, even artificial similarity create hidden cues that the subconscious looks for. When people detect these cues, their minds think “little can go wrong between us- after all, we think the same!” Similarity eliminates risk and perceived danger. It breeds comfort.

The next time you want to create a great impression on a fantastic new stranger, ask her “What’s the story behind that.” Listen. Then say “me too!”

Watch the stars light her eyes.

Take a step back and ponder on all the big stuff that happened to you. Did you notice that some small tweak in your plans often drove it to amazing completion? Or how one small decision brought about earthshaking rewards?

Here’s how to use the rule to save more time and maximize your life’s bottomline:

• Make it a habit of jotting down your top daily priorities. If you find yourself stuck in nonessentials, get back on track!
• Learn to procrastinate on procrastination.
• Cease focusing on your inadequacies- just do what you do best.
• Halt trying to be perfect- you gain more by spending time on a few relaxing and self-indulgent activities (like having a sauna or extra sleep). This revitalizes you to achieve more.
• Forget about worrying… have more fun!
• Live in the present. The future will take care of itself.
• Learn to trust in what you’ve done. Second guessing slows you down.
• Have faith in your intuition- it’s your lifeline to wondrous things beyond your logical mind. This often leads to “eureka moments”

Have you been maximizing your life’s bottomline?

Think of the way you would pamper your baby. First, you would hug her when she were crying. You’d feed her when her tummy growls. You’d encourage her after her attempts to walk fail. You defend her from attacks and criticisms. You’d point out to her that mistakes aren’t to be ashamed of- but to be learned from. You’d spend a whole day just bonding in silence- simplye enjoying the beauty of the skies floating by.

Okay. Now, do you have an idea how to pamper yourself? Pampering need not be costly. Simply treat yourself the same way you treat a baby! Take time out to spend a day just by yourself. Encourage your self to achieve more and comfort yourself when goals aren’t reached. Save them for the next day. Learn to forgive yourself of mistakes. Pick up from the pieces and learn to do things better next time.

Remember: You deserve love and care. And only you can give yourself unconditional affection.

Ready?

I want you to write down 20 words that best describe you. Don’t stop until you finish writing. Take as long as you need, but don’t let anything distract you from this.

Done? Look at your answers one at a time and decide which beliefs are empowering and have positive implications. Place a check next to these words.

Next, look at which beliefs are disempowering and damage your self-esteem. Place an X next to these words.

Now scan the list and look at all the X answers. Consider very intensely why you believe these things to be true. Some of them may be unsupported assumptions. DISCARD THEM!

Always challenge disempowering beliefs. Does it serve you well to believe something that doesn’t work for you?

How do you feel when presented with options? Do you feel good? Wishy washy? Pathetic? Indifferent?

Your decision making process determines how much you influence the world.

Those with low self-esteem distrust their own judgement. It’s easy to get over this, nonetheless. Simply use the IDA strategy whenever you feel uncertain. Here’s the trick:

Intention -> Decision -> Action.

The confused can’t act if they can’t decide to act, and they can’t decide unless they know what they intend to happen.

Discover your intention by asking, “What do I want to happen?” Then decide how you need to change your behavior. From there, modify your behavior by acting differently.

Make this your goal for today. When you know what you want, you WILL make things happen.