My friend complained  that people kept ordering her around. She’d mix the coffee, do the photocopies, even walk their dogs when she’d rather sleep! Her problem was that she couldn’t assert herself. That turned her into a doormat- something I’m sure some of you endure. (more…)

Think about the responsibilities you have lined up for today. How do you feel about them? Depressed? Demotivated? Pressurized? Or perky like a jellybean? If it’s a Monday I’m betting the farm you’d rather stay in bed. Admit it.

There’s a way to get things done with a smile.

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Feelings are darned important. The problem is, we tend to shuffle them under a carpet because we are afraid of being judged. That’s something I wondered about. Since when does society have the right to say you can feel this way or that? You are the absolute master of your emotions. You choose when to laugh or cry. Or jump the bridge!

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It’s been a lousy day. Everyone woke up late. You were stuck at gridlock for two hours. Coffee spilt on your Armani suit at the drive thru. Then, at office, the Board shows up and you’re unprepared. Fortunately your secretary calls that she’ll be absent, so you plot ahead how to take over her responsibilities. At 4pm, your 8pm date cancels.

You’re ready to scream. (more…)

People like those who are like themselves. People believe those whom they like. Don’t believe me? Describe your best friend. Chances are, he or she is a mirror image of yourself.

 You want rapport? Then always mine for similar attitudes, likes, dislikes, cultural backgrounds, virtues, experiences, career objectives, and values. Highlight the commonalities in your conversation and behavior. You’ll create instantaneous attraction even with total strangers! (more…)

There’s a rule I learned in my operations management classes that apply in real life. It’s called the 80/20 Rule. The rule goes to say that 20 percent of your activities likely create 80 percent of the significant achievements.

Take a step back and ponder on all the big stuff that happened to you. Did you notice that some small tweak in your plans often drove it to amazing completion? Or how one small decision brought about earthshaking rewards? (more…)

You deserve a good pampering. Everyone does. When you don’t take time out to treat youself, life becomes unenjoyable- and motivation to succeed simply wanes. But do you know how to pamper yourself?

Think of the way you would pamper your baby. First, you would hug her when she were crying. You’d feed her when her tummy growls. You’d encourage her after her attempts to walk fail. You defend her from attacks and criticisms. You’d point out to her that mistakes aren’t to be ashamed of- but to be learned from. You’d spend a whole day just bonding in silence- simplye enjoying the beauty of the skies floating by. (more…)

Stop right this minute. Get out a sheet of paper and a mongol number 2. What you’re gonna do is gonna give you a better life. Trust me. It’s empowerment to the max.

Ready?

I want you to write down 20 words that best describe you. Don’t stop until you finish writing. Take as long as you need, but don’t let anything distract you from this. (more…)

Do you know what separates those who make things happen and those who have things happen to them? Or why some people make waves and others fall as victims on the roadside? The difference lies in one’s ability to decide with conviction.

How do you feel when presented with options? Do you feel good? Wishy washy? Pathetic? Indifferent?

Your decision making process determines how much you influence the world. (more…)

If your breathing space is cluttered with all sorts of mess, you feel psychologically crowded- it gets hard to think and relax. Bring about some peace by simplifying the way you live and you instantly increase your mental focus while decreasing stress.

Yogis like to teach that to attract prosperity, we myst first create room to allow the new abundance. It’s this principle that drives the success of runaway bestseller The Secret. Realize now that by grasping at redundant and useless baggage that surround us, we spiritually tie ourselves to old limiting beliefs and past limitations. My mom long hammered this fact into me; it’s done wonders for my personal growth. (more…)