NLP Chunking

Have you ever:

Been stuck in a negotiation or argument and not been able to find common areas of agreement?
Needed to quickly and easily think laterally?
Felt overwhelmed with an activity?
Wanted to get something done, but did not feel excited about it?
Chunking can help you get past these obstacles.

What is Chunking?

In NLP, ‘chunking up’ refers to moving to more general or abstract pieces of information. While ‘chunking down’ means moving to more specific or detailed information.

To chunk up on a piece of information, use one or more of the following questions:

What is this an example of?
What is this a part of?
What is the intention?
For what purpose?
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Let’s face it: people often judge you by appearance. It’s not ideal of course. We prefer to be evaluated on basis of what’s inside: intellect, wit, accomplishments, charisma. The problem is, before folks can see that, they gravitate to you the basis of your external appearance.

Dressing well, therefore, and projecting a polished image is necessary.

Let two girls bat for a job. Assume both possess the same charm, wit and exemplary resume. Who’d get the job? Obviously the sassier-dressed. It’s all got to do with Cialdini’s Principle of Likability: we find ourselve’s drawn to attractive people projecting a delightful package.

Fortunately, image projection need not be expensive, what with numerous online retailers of fashionable apparel. Like ShopBop. I recently stumbled across this community of fashionistas that offer more than products: they also proffer fashion guides that help you to look your best 24/7.

Shopbob’s a good place to begin your image projection overhaul. Check it out!

There is one critical set of strategies required to speed you on your way to the achievement of your objectives and goals and hence the acquisition of your dreams: your Daily Activities Lists. The activities list is your prioritized itinerary. Line by line it illustrates what you intend to achieve during the current day and up to the end of the month.

Consider that there is no limit to the laundry list of activities which you can choose to delegate your time. Therefore, there will rarely be a day during your life when you feel “tied up.” Think back. Can you ever recall a day when you felt that you had accomplished all the things you needed to do and would like to have done? I definitely cannot remember one. However, what’s key is not that everything gets done during a chosen day, but that the activities that are most vital to the achievement of your dreams have been concluded on a schedule set by you. To feel good about how you utilize time does not require being hectic every moment, or regularly playing “catch-up.” Positive feelings and the mental rewards coupled with real accomplishments are fashioned through effectiveness, since only effectiveness creates results. (more…)

Discover the Magic of Positive Focusing

There is a fallacy that to hit our goal we ought to “think positive” all the time. No, we need not “think positive” 24/7. We don’t even have to imagine positively all the time. To triumph - to fulfill our personal quests - all we have to do is keep focused on our aspirations and keep moving to it.

Let’s say person X, person Y and person Z all set out for the same objective. They commence at the same place simultaneously. Person X is a positive thinker, person Y is a positive focuser, person Z is both a positive thinker and a positive, rabid focuser.

At the “Go,” person X decides to sit down and do a little positive thinking to help prepare for the journey. Person Y focuses on the goal and gets moving. Person Z gets moving, too.

Person X observes an area of unpositiveness within, and continues to sit, working hard to remove the “darkness” before initiating on the journey. Person Y does not like the road, hates the rules, dislikes the weather, abhors the planned lunch, etc., but keeps chugging toward the goal nonetheless. Person Z keeps fighting, too, while relishing the flowers, waving at travellers, singing, and thinking what good exercise all this movement is. (more…)

The Joe in question isn’t me. It’s a good friend of mine.

Born in squalor, he fought tooth and nail to survive the slums, enter a good university- and now, runs a multitude of companies.

We had a long talk over Coke Last last night (yep, beer’s no good for powerhouses) and I discovered we both lived by similar principles. These tenets helped us survive the tumult of life:

- You can’t be everything to everybody

- Don’t waste time befriending mad dogs.

- Admit there is no perfection, but strive for it nonetheless.

- Never underestimate the delight of real simplicity in lifestyle.

- Avoid unecessary complications.

- Consider first what is worth fighting for.

- Focus your mind on the pleasant aspects of life. (more…)

How’s your job?

If you’re the average bloke making $5000 a month, you’re in for a shocker.

Did you know that the effort to make $5000 is exactly the same as the effort to make $15,000?

Yep. Believe it. Proof: do you think The average marketing manager making $15000 is more stressed than the $5000 carpenter?

Hell no. They put in exactly the same effort to build their wealth.

So what’s the difference?

It’s mindset. Simply decide that you want to make 15000 or more a month and act accordiingly. Optimize your time. Reallocate your resources.

And you’ll blast down the doors to genuine affluence.

PS… I realized this years ago when I realized working for somebody else was crazy. Why spend 8-5 making someone rich when I could go to work for myself… and keep all the profits!?

How to you spend your free time?

Let me see. If you’re one of the millions of corporate blokes out there, you laze in front of TV, get drunk, read some old Men’s magz or just doze off. And while you’re at it, your brain shrinks while your belly bloats.

Aha! Is that a blush on your cheek? I thought so.

Leisure time that’s simply passive downtime is a monumental waste of time. It’s time that could have been spent more productively and yet enjoyably.

Consider the following activities that can get you a major rush. (more…)

I got a pile of stuff. Collections of old laptops, comics, shirts that no longer fit and even tax returns from 1997.

“Joe,” I told myself “I gotta throw some out. Otherwise, how can new stuff come in?”

Sigh. Till 2006, I never followed through on my self-chastisement. The stuff keeps piling up and investing in new cabinets added to the stuff.

How many of you suffer from the collection bug?

Stepping back, I realize that collecting nonestop can be dysfunctional at times. It’s the mind whispering, “you better hoard, coz you’ll never get something like this again.”

That’s a self-defeating mindset. It gets you on a poverty mode of thinking.With such thoughts, its impossible to see new opportunities and take on grand challenges that may truly expand one’s horizon’s beyond the current myopic view. Why? You’ll perpetually be hiding, hoarding and protecting. How can you grow under such conditions- how can you attract things beyond what you already have?

Today, I begin throwing out stuff.

If you’ve just graduated college, you’ve probably begun hiding away all those books and papers. Finally: freedom!! It’s time to get really rich and make a name for yourself. Career. That’s the real world, right?

Wrong.

Graduation is no excuse to stop the learning process. Failure to study is folly! The new information your constantly process determines your edge in life. School learning is static and often decades out of date.

Here’s how to grow your IQ by 50%- after college. (more…)

Someone cuts you off. Do you holler?

The last parking slot is taken. Do you scream?

The boss fires you. Did you jump the building?

If you said yes to any, I’m sorry to say, you’re a weakling. You simply react to events instead of choosing your own response.

The real movers and shakers chose proactively. The decide on positive behaviours that serve them well. In other words, they choose to be the cause of events. Not the effects.

Here are some tips you can use to rule your reality.

1) Before you react to something, ask yourself: does this serve me well?

2) Take the initiative. If you know you’ll be fired, resign.

3) Pretend you have just 30 minutes to live. How’d you do it?

4) Take ten seconds before acting on something. This prevents brash moves

5) When you’ve made your decision, don’t look back. Be consistent! Remember: never excuse your decisions. It’s your right!