Is Dating and getting Laid every week your goal in regards to Seduction?
I am aware that many pick up artists out there, in particular those with years of experience, usually ignore such discussions. They concentrate on what actions should be taken that will help them to improve their dating life (i.e. more approaches, more numbers, more lays, etc).

That is their decision, and that is their way. However, I believe that on a regular basis you need to talk about the ‘why’s of wanting an active dating life and not just the ‘how’s. This is correct for rookies who have been reading and applying seduction material for years with very little to show for their efforts. In the seduction community, we call these types of people ‘keyboard jockies.’
 The below is a formula on how to get success in life. Period

Motivation ==> Action ===> Results

There are plenty of articles on the Internet that explain how to approach women, tips on escalation, etc. However, this article is about how to obtain the mindset of getting laid every week. This article is not just focused on seduction but how to get success in life in general.

Why is it essential to have a goal to your success?

Regardless of what your goal is in regards to seduction. Whether, you want to get laid every week, every night or every hour. It is vital that you have a goal to accomplish. This is how you get success in life. If you are not having a consistent amount of lays, then it is highly suggested that you pick a specific number, taking into account your current lifestyle. Put this down on paper. Stick this all over your room. Stick this anywhere you will see it throughout the day. The intention here is to instil this goal into your brain.

Why would you do this?

The subconscious of your mind is definitely one of the most influential tools that you have. However, it is like any piece of technology, it requires specific commands in order to take action. The more detailed this command is, the more clarity and visual it has to make that request a reality.

So when most people feel or think the thought ‘I want to get laid.’ These thoughts are ambigious and require a more concise command to get your subconscious into the right frame of mind.

 Instead, give it the command:

 ”I want to get laid every week.”

After you have decided on your goal. The next thing to do is to expose your mind with this command as much as possible throughout the day. For instance, you could write this command every morning and night. Record yourself saying this, and hear it on your Ipod every few hours. This requires determination and discipline on your part. With that being said, you can imagine that this can get boring very quickly. That is why most people can’t keep this up for more than a few days. You can do this for any goal. This is not just seduction-related. 

Think about it. What would happen if you actually could?
As time goes, this command will be so carved into your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind will see the difference between the command and reality. Reality does not match your goal. What happens?

The subconscious mind takes over and begins to prove you with the creativity and determination to make your reality to match your goal. The subconscious will feed you with the ideas to spark your goal. The subconscious will see this consistency and gets to work to make your reality to become aligned with your command.

There are not many people who know to tap into this power. However, if you are able to do so you will be blown away by the results. Your questioning will naturally move from how to get success in life to how can I get more success.

Therefore, if you want to get laid every week, then your goal now should be to persuade your subconscious that your reality is to get laid every week.

This is not something that will happen overnight, it will take time.  This is the reason why most people never tap into this un-used power within them. You have to put the effort in, every day, regardless of whether you are seeing immediate results. This is the way to get success in life.

This is a trait of a successful person. They do things that not many people would. They take action despite not seeing any immediate results because of their efforts. Once they encounter obstacles, they analyze and take corrective action and move forward. Keep pushing in the right direction and learn from your mistakes and you will eventually be on the road to success.

It is correct to learn the actual seduction tips and tricks. This is also critical to your dating life. However, I highly suggest you begin with your inner game and try to tap into your power of the sub-conscious.

 I will Get Laid Every Week
Work on your Inner Game and Outer Game rewards will come.

There you have it, you now know how to get success in life.

When you do tap into the subconscious and finally taste success, please come find me and share your story. I’d love to hear about it. There’s no greater joy than hearing about someone who was down, took actions, and raised themselves up out of the ashes of failure, into the mountains of success.

Contact me at my Blog at www.playagetslaid.com
Thank you for listening to my words. I truly hope that you get a little inspiration from them.

Now go out and start making good choices and get the success in your life that you deserve.

Mistake # 1: Being Like Every Other Guy

Once upon a time, there was a man who saw a very attractive woman.
He was very nice and polite around her.

When he mustered up the courage to actually talk to her, he said one of the following lines:

“Hi, How was your day”
“Do you come here often?”
“You look familiar. Have we met before?

Then he immediately talked about the “Weather” and “Her Job”. When it was time to get her phone number, he said “Can, I take you out to dinner sometime?”

He waited 3 days before he called her up.

A week later, he brought her flowers, took her out to an expensive dinner, and attempted to kiss her while walking her to her door.

The End.

Okay, I’ve got some good news and some bad news.

BAD NEWS: If you can identify with the man in the story or if you think it’s the right thing to do, then you’re making a very DEADLY MISTAKE with women and you don’t even know it.

GOOD NEWS: Now you know about it.

If you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, then chances are she’s been out on dates before.

There’s also a big chance that EVERY OTHER GUY fits the description above. As a matter of fact, it happens so often that women get tired of the same routine over and over again.

Why would you want to be like every other guy?

In this time and age, women dream of a man that is UNIQUE and ORIGINAL.

Mistake #2: Following The “Friend’s First” Method

Have you ever tried to be “Friends” with a woman hoping that one day she’ll fall for you?

Maybe you were always there to TALK with her when she had problems. Maybe you did really nice things for her. Maybe you even tried to tell her that “You Liked Her”… Then she ends up telling you “Let’s be friends”.

She had a pretty good reason too. She said “I don’t want to ruin our friendship; you mean so much to me”. Next thing you know, she’s dating a guy that treats her like shit.

So why does she fall for him instead of you?

He’s doing something that you’re not doing.

He’s making her feel a powerful SEXUAL ATTRACTION towards him…

It’s the same SEXUAL ATTRACTION that you automatically feel whenever you see an attractive woman. You don’t think about it. You don’t control it, and you don’t plan it.

It just happens.

Here’s a secret. You can trigger that same SEXUAL ATTRACTION within a woman. In fact, you have to learn how to trigger this kind of a attraction within women or you’ll never date the kind of women you’ve always wanted.

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to be rich or handsome at all to do it.

It’s much simpler than that. You just need specific techniques that compel women to feel a strong sexual attraction in your presence.

Mistake #3: Asking For “Permission” Before Doing Anything

Most men feel the need to ask a woman’s permission before they do anything.

They ask her if it’s ok to “Kiss Her”, “Take Her Out”, and sometimes even “Pick A Movie”.

This slowly kills any attraction that a woman might have for you. Women are attracted to men that know how to LEAD the interaction.

Instead of asking her permission all the time and starting your sentences with “Can we go to” or “Would you like some?” try being more assertive.

Instead of saying: “Do you want to watch a movie?” say “Let’s go watch a movie”.

This subtle change of words makes a big difference in the way you come across to women. They will view you as more confident.

Mistake #4: Only Going To Bars And Clubs To Meet Women

Do you think you’ll find love while perched on a barstool? Think again.

According to the Encyclopedia of Exes:

“Only 9 percent of women and 2 percent of men say they’ve found a relationship at a bar or club—blame it on the beer goggles. So if you’re lonely and looking, you’re better off hitting on cuties at Starbucks.”

This means that…

91% of women prefer to meet men outside of bars and clubs.

That’s majority of the female population! Most of the guys out there are looking for women at the wrong places!

What shocked me the most was that nobody was aware of it.

Nobody was taking advantage of it.

Nobody knew how to do it.

They didn’t know how to meet women in normal everyday locations like coffee shops, bookstores, malls, college campuses, parks, beaches, and anywhere under the sun!

Mistake #5: Creeping Women Out Instantly

The sad truth is that most men that try to attract women end up creeping them out beyond belief… and the worst part is that they’re probably not even aware of it!

Here are the things they do:

• Smiling to much at a woman they want combined with staring at them for long periods of time in hopes that it will result to something. They do it over and over again until women get really uncomfortable and “creeped” out.
• Trying to get as close to her as you possibly can and following her around, crossing your fingers, and hoping that you just naturally “hit it off” with her.
• Trying to find out everything about her right away and asking her all sorts of “boring” questions one after the other. This is what every other guy tries to do and trust me, that’s the last thing you want to do.

Have YOU ever been guilty of one of these things?

If you have then… STOP right now.

These are the three most common complaints women have about men they classify as CREEPY.

Mistake # 6: Setting Yourself Up For Failure Right From The Start

Did you know that there are things that most men do all the time to guarantee that they fail even before they begin?

When most men see a woman they want, they start thinking of the worst possible scenario right away. For some reason this is the first thing that comes up in our minds before we approach women.

In the past, I remember having these crazy thoughts going in my mind:

“What if she rejects me and everybody around her hears it? What will they think of me? What if they laugh at me?”
“What if she has a boyfriend and she tells me to f*** off?”

Looking back, these thoughts have deliberately destroyed my chances with getting dates with beautiful women. They absolutely did.

Another “Instant Failure” move that’s common is that most men tend to Wait too long before they approach women. Well here’s what I learned…

That big ball of anxiety you feel when you see a woman you want to approach gets magnified and intensified the longer you wait!

It comes to a point that it immobilizes you… You end up freezing up and not doing anything.

By the way, here’s simple ways you can IMMEDIATELY use to approach women without fear and anxiety:

Be Prepared- Most guys fail with women because they don’t know what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. So in order to be part of the top 1% of men that are successful with women, you must be prepared even before you approach women. Use a proven way of starting conversations with women. Know exactly what you will do when something unexpected comes up and throws you off. This advice alone will triple your dating results.

Mistake # 7: Following Dating Advice That Doesn’t Work

I’m going to make a really bold statement here, and I’ll back it up in a minute.

MOST DATING ADVICE OUT THERE JUST DON’T WORK…

Here’s why: Because I’ve tried them and nothing seemed to be working no matter how hard I tried,

I followed all the basics. I learned from every dating program available to mankind. I learned how to be interesting to women, how to start conversations easily, where to take them on dates, and as ridiculous as it sounds, I even learned how to guess their zodiac signs.

Turns out that most of the promises were just pure hype, pure bull… Because most of the dating advice out there just didn’t work in real world situations.

It sounded right and the theory made perfect sense… UNTIL I tried them out in the real world only to fall flat on my face.

After figuring this out, I knew I had to take matters into my own hands.

Since then I went on a mission. To find the truth, try everything out, and increase my chances with the women I desired.

I spent most of my time and money on getting this part of my life handled. I spent well over 3 years carefully documenting and writing about my experiences. Most of my time was spent researching, coming up with techniques, and putting those techniques to the test.

I’ve tried all types of approaches to meeting women enough to learn what works and what doesn’t.

I Ended Up Interacting With Literally Thousands Of Women

Today, I can meet any woman I desire, get her attracted to me in less than 30 seconds flat, usually having her beg for my number, and all the good stuff that almost sounds too good to be true.

If you want to triple your confidence, become naturally charming, and meet and date more women in a month than most men date in a year, start by getting your free special report on How to Meet More Women in Just 21 Days.

Talk To You Soon,

Your Friend,
Oliver Turner

My circle of friends includes a bunch of very shy guys. They’re good looking, but they falter when face to face with a woman. Somehow, all the wrong words come out- or none at all!

I’ve seen them crash and burn numerous times at bars, groceries and parks. They’d attempt a humorous opener and end up looking like fools. Some ended up slapped. They try again- with the same result.

How many among YOU are daunted by physical encounters? Oh. Do I see a dozen hands? Before you ultimately give up on romance, I suggest online dating. With the computer as a buffer and distance as a shield, you’d feel safe and eliminate the cold sweats normally associated with real time physical interaction. The other benefit is that you can compose your words more easily as you chat over YM or email.

I’ve recently come across a dating site that offers solid advice for the internet dating game. In their easy-to-navigate web, you’ll find everything from locating the best match making services to virtual dating tips.

This service is free and ad supported so you can avail of great info at no cost. Swing over and find out how you can finally enjoy the romance you deserve!

Don’t be surprised if at the beginning of nurturing your relationship, resentments surface. A familiar pattern: you start doing sweet things for each other, and suddenly a few days later you have a fight about how she never initiates sex or he never buys thoughtful gifts. This fight may seem to come out of nowhere, but it hasn’t. When we begin to nurture each other, we touch on unmet needs. An angry voice rises up and says, “This feels good. Why hasn’t he done this for me before?” Or, instead of resentment, our internal voice might say, “This feels too good. I can’t handle it,” and we pick a fight to distance ourselves because we are afraid this good stuff will be cut off.

How do you deal with fear, fights, and resistance to change? Recognize they exist. Discuss your fears about changing and acknowledge your resistance to trying anything new. Too often we start beating ourselves up and throwing ourselves headlong into a project before we have given any attention to our reluctance and fears. Don’t deny your resistance and fear; it won’t go away, it will only get bigger. Instead, make room for it. Write down your resistance and name your fears. Or try designating a chair or box in your house where you store your resistance to exploring new things. Refer to it, or mimic adding to it when you feel the overwhelming need to stay the same or are afraid to try something new. Tune in to your feelings and the voices in your head. Talk about your feelings as they come up. Try to link fears and overwhelming feelings of neediness with self-nurturing activities.

Whatever you do, avoid perfectionism. Perfect translates directly to failure where nurturing is concerned. All change is a give-and-take process, two steps forward, one step back. Words of appreciation and intimate dinners in front of the fireplace instead of the TV might happen for a few days, and then it is back to “Star Trek” and a mumbled “How was your day?” Real change takes time, patience, and what feels like an endless number of reminders, both to yourself and your partner. If you accept this at the outset, you will succeed in polishing your relationship to a fresh, healthy luster of passion, respect, and connection.

Today, there is hardly a couple out there who do not know about most of the alternative positions to the standard “missionary” position. The missionary position is where the women is lying on your back while the man is on top of her. And even though most couples are aware of other more exciting sexual positions, most still play out the same old routine, repeatedly, and then complain that their sex life is getting stale.

One such position that does not get enough attention is the option to have the women sitting on top of her male partner. As we have seen, most men resist this position because they are not able to be “dominant”, and this creates a lot of anxiety in some men. They need to feel a sense of control and this position, while very exciting, takes away that control.

On the same token, many women also resist this position for a similar reason and that is that it makes them feel “too aggressive”. Women who have been surveyed about this questions say that they do not feel proper by taking control over their sexual experience with their male partner. They feel as though the role of controlling the experience should be left as the “man’s role”. Also, some women are insecure about their bodies and are actually embarrassed at the way they look on top to their mates.

On top, a women’s torso (her breasts and belly) are in total view of her partner as compared to being in the missionary position. In the standard missionary position, where the women is lying on her back, the man does not see much of her body. And for a women who is insecure about the way her body looks, especially the way her breasts appear, the “embarrassment” she feels is often enough to keep her from letting go and relaxing her sexual feelings.

In dealing with couples for years now, I have talked with hundreds of men and women who will spend everyday planning their dinner or their wardrobe, get in their television shows each night, get to the gym three times per week, etc. but thinking nothing of putting a priority on planning and engaging intimacy with their partners. In terms of priorities, sex seems to usually come last, far behind all of the above typical schedule. These couples have literally schedule intimacy right out of their lives. Are you one of them?

For most of us, being “too busy” in our lives is simply another subtle way we avoid sex, another way we turn ourselves off without honestly confronting what it is we are doing. We say, “Can’t you see all of the things that I have to do everyday? I have PTA meetings, work, grocery shopping, house cleaning, and errands to run.” By missing the time for intimacy, we never have to face the anxieties or the resentments which are actually the real reasons why we haven’t made love for weeks or even months on end.

There was one middle-aged women who was literally in tears at her counseling session when she said to me, “Each night we I go to bed and see my husband’s back lying there next to me, all that I can think about is: It’s been over 8 weeks since we made love!” But as our conversation went much further, she admitted that she went to yoga classes up to four times per week and jogged for an hour at an additional three days per week, all the while her husband was at home, alone. Soon enough she was admitting to me (and to herself) that she was ashamed of weight that she had put on her body and that she wasn’t going to feel sexual until her body was in the shape that she wanted it to be.

As you can see, the problem was not totally the fault of her husband. In fact, she was creating her own reality of not making love, because she was insecure about herself. And while this wasn’t easy for her to admit the whole time, she was able to feel safe by blaming her husband for the lack of intimacy. The sooner that we truly become honest with ourselves and work outward from the inside, the sooner that our intimacy problems can addressed.

Her Side: “I’m tired of doing all of it all the time.” “It’s the psychic energy that is so draining. I have to be responsible for things even if I’m not in charge of them!” “How come he can fix a car engine but can’t figure out how to put the toilet paper on the roll?”

His Side: “When I do the grocery shopping, she says I buy the wrong tomato sauces, and then yells at me,” “She’ll find one spot of food on the pot and yell, ‘Is this what you call clean?’” “The fact is that I can’t remember to put my socks in the hamper is not a personal attack against her. I just…. forget.”

Even the best counselors don’t have a foolproof recipe for success on this one. But here are a few suggestions:

1. Figure out exactly what needs to be done and who’s doing it. Keep a log of everything for a week down to the minute details: Who walked the dog, who did the laundry, who folded the clothes, who took the car in for repair, and so on. It could well be that a spouse is doing more than you gave him or her credit for. In that case, make a point of appreciating each other’s efforts. By not taking chores, large or small, for granted, you create a spiral of appreciation that, in time, can erase resentment.

2. Train your kids. Instead of fostering helplessness in the next generation, make sure that your children, boys as well as girls, grow up believing that sharing the physical as well as the emotional chores at home is just what considerate people do.

3. Let go. Sometimes, when it comes to housework and children, women are their own worst enemies. You asked Daddy to dress the baby and the kid comes out with a top and a bottom that does not match? Who cares? You wanted him to do the shopping? Then let him do it his way. The principle here is simple: If you give up responsibility for a chore, you have to give up control over it, too. Besides, some things just aren’t worth quibbling over.

In any type of relationship where two people are closely bonded, differences in opinions and priorities are bound to develop. It is also inevitable that each individual within the relationship handles anxiety and stress different as well. At first these difference do not create a problem, but as the relationship progresses, the lack of understanding one another can lead to some very series complications.

If you and your partner are having the same type of issues, then break the cycle by keeping the following points in mind:

1. Acknowledge the role that you both play during any type of problem that comes up. Take responsibility for your actions that contributed. It is a mistake to automatically assume that the fault lies with your partner.

2. Without saying your words in an accusatory manner, state your feelings and your needs specifically as you can. Instead of starting your sentences off with “You always…” or “I can’t stand the way you…” or “You make me feel…” Instead, try “I often feel that…” or “Might you consider…” or “Can we try…”

3. Always be willing to compromise with each other. Having this ability can mean the difference between a successful marriage or a failed marriage.

4. Develop a respect and an appreciation for each other’s perceptions and individuality. Stop trying to be “right” all of the time. Instead, be willing to take some blame and be willing to be wrong.

5. Remember that no matter how well suited you and your partner may be for each other, there will invariably be times when you will clash. So just keep in mind that “different” is just that, and not a moral judgment.

6. Practice this philosophy: There is no right or wrong. It may be hard to get around that way of thinking in the heat of an argument with your significant other, but this technique can take you from throwing insults, to compromising and working out the problem, in a heartbeat.

Below are five ideas to help you to remain strong when your partner loses control with his or her anger. Simply find out which ones will work for you.

1. Be understanding by learning to really listen to your partner’s anger. I know it is not easy to do this when you are being bombarded with a catapult of insults and accusations, because most of us react too quickly with angry accusations of our own. This is especially true when our own “hot buttons” are pushed and we are faced with harsh words of the past or old issues are brought up. Just try to ignore your own reactive nature by trying to listen more to your partner.

2. Take responsibility for your own behavior by considering how you may have helped trigger your partner’s anger. You may have provoked his or her fury without even being conscience of it. Think about what steps you may be able to take in order to change your behavior from now on.

3. Validate your partner’s angry feelings. Do not dismiss their emotions just because you are not happy with how they are feeling. Of course nobody enjoys it if the other person is feeling angry or frustrated, but telling someone that they shouldn’t feel that way does nothing but fuel more anger. Passing judgment on how someone feels is not an option.

4. Just as parents call “time-outs” when their children throws a temper tantrum, you should do the same for yourself if a partner loses control. Let them know that you are not going to say one word until you are spoken to in a positive manner. Let your partner know that you do not appreciate being spoken to in such an angry, humiliating, and insulting way.

5. Try to find a way to be able to stop your partner’s anger, like sort of “short-circuit”. Perhaps you both can agree on a code word that can be said if tempers start to flair up, and when this word is announced then you both know to cool off and leave the situation for a while, until you are ready to calmly talk about the problem.

To help you better understand what it takes before getting involved with someone, we have five ways in which you can tell if you are ready or not.

Autonomy: You must be enough of a separate individual to be able to risk giving up the relationship rather than lose your identity while in it. This will make it much less likely that the relationship will ever end. If you trust enough and you are separate enough, you will be able to tolerate being apart from your beloved without punishing him or her before and/or during and/or after their return from a being away, on a business trip for example.

Trust: You must have enough trust in yourself and in life itself so that no matter what happens in the dating process and beyond, you will endure – you will be just fine.

Initiative: If you have the ability to make things happen; the ability to initiate action without feeling unduly guilty all the time, when you will be able to express your needs and wants in the relationship. You will be able to make decisions for yourself that will bring fresh air and healthy change into the relationship. In other words, you will seldom get stuck in your life.

Competence: If you have developed, and continue to develop, your competencies (political, social, emotional, academic, artistic skills, etc.) and remain a competent person, then you will be able to take care of yourself even if you are single after breaking up a relationship. In other words, you must remain able to pay your bills, do worthwhile work, do your laundry, etc. without the need for someone to help you, or to make you not feel “lonely”. Being lonely like this and not being competent will only draw you back into a partnership that is unhealthy and based on convenience.

Identity: If you have a solid identity and know who you are, then you will be able to fully exist inside of a relationship without losing your “self” in the process. This means that you know yourself well enough to live by your convictions that you have earned through questioning and struggle.

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