Someone cuts you off. Do you holler?

The last parking slot is taken. Do you scream?

The boss fires you. Did you jump the building?

If you said yes to any, I’m sorry to say, you’re a weakling. You simply react to events instead of choosing your own response.

The real movers and shakers chose proactively. The decide on positive behaviours that serve them well. In other words, they choose to be the cause of events. Not the effects.

Here are some tips you can use to rule your reality.

1) Before you react to something, ask yourself: does this serve me well?

2) Take the initiative. If you know you’ll be fired, resign.

3) Pretend you have just 30 minutes to live. How’d you do it?

4) Take ten seconds before acting on something. This prevents brash moves

5) When you’ve made your decision, don’t look back. Be consistent! Remember: never excuse your decisions. It’s your right!

Public speaking is said to be rank higher in the global list of fears than - guess what? - death! Why? Beats me. I just know that when I stand before the audience and pretend I’m talking one on one with a single person. And you know what? I lose all fear in a second.

Do you want a standing ovation the next time you deliver your speech? Try the following

1) Focus on the crowd, not yourself. Think of entertaining them. Don’t imagine them criticizing you.

2) Walk around. A lot. Act like you’re just bantering at the water cooler. This loosens you up.

3) Crack jokes. Smile. They’ll smile back. And you create rapport.

4) Tell stories. Everyone loves a great story! Watch how their eyes stop glazing over.

5) Finally- encourage audience participation. Ask them questions. Throw them opinions. Banter. Debate. Keep it quick flowing!

Now I came across a cool blog with great tips on the subject. You’ll want to check this out:
Standing Ovations

Did you notice how some people are just so insanely happy? Sling all the insulting barbs you want or hurl impossible tasks their way and yet they keep on ticking. Blissfully. Happily.

And that makes you drip with envy all the more.

A small segment of the population come factory-built with a natural propensity for positive outlook. They’re hardwired with copious amounts of zest. This zest easily shields them from the buffets of life that normally faze the rest of us.

Recently scientists discovered how the naturally occuring-drug serotonin flows more generously in such individuals. Serotonin is magic. It’s a chemical produced in the amygdala and can give far more pleasure signals than cocaine or marijuana can. No wonder happy people are unstoppable! They’re simply cocooned in bliss that rose-tints the blight of the world!

Wouldn’t you love to experience their reality?

Try these three tips now!

1) Discover what you REALLY want and enjoy your passions. Is it drawing? Painting? Designing web pages or collecting toys? The more you do what you want, the faster you pump out serotonin and create an inner zest.

2) Give unconditional love and respect. Face it, connection with others creates that warm fuzzy feeling inside. That fuzzy feeling expands into unmitigated, explosive joy when done regularly. Imagine how unstoppable you’ll be when you feel loved- and are loved!

3) Take an inventory of your thoughts. The next time a depressing, critical or evil thought swims into view, ask yourself ‘Does this Serve Me Well?’ If it doesn’t, chuck it!

Fly high!

Most NLP practitioners tend to use hypnosis and NLP to coax people out of limiting beliefs- such as fear of public speaking. This gives NLP a “fixit” reputation. Got a problem? Here’s NLP. Go Fix.

Now here’s a respected Ph.D who uses it for more fun stuff. How fun? Get this: to create the oft impossible objective of 70% of males out there: the Big Orgasm.

Yep, You heard that right. Orgasm.

I just came across a recent blog post of his detailing how he easily creates the automatic Orgasmic Response in clients. Check out his hypnotic spiel:

with every number I say, your pussy gets more and mnore sensitive and you feel that erotic charge throughout your entire body so that with each number you become much much more aroused, perhaps even one hundred times more horny/aroused and when I reach the number one you explode in a wonderful orgasm . . . five . . . four . . . three . . . four . . . three . . . almost there . . . two . . . get ready . . . three . . . two . . . at the next number . . . one . . . boom” or some such

Woah. If you’re a woman, I can already imagine the quivers that must have started at your belly and crept down your…

Anyway. Let’s leave it G-rated shall we?

If you’re already excited (cmon admit it), you must visit Brian’s Blog. Brian David Philipps, Ph.D is one of the rare clinical psychiatrists who won’t bore you to death like most Dr.’s you’d know.

Recall the last basketball game you attended.

Where you the player or the spectator?

There’s a stark difference between the two.

Players live IN the game, experiencing an adrenaline rush and living every moment in constant focus, drive and passion. They make things happen, exerting consistent actions committed to a goal.

Despite the risk of winning or losing, players are fully alive.

The spectator, on the other hand, sits from the stands. He watches and observes. His pulse pounds mildly- after all he experiences triumph or defeat vicariously from his preferred team.

Now here’s the difference: spectatorship costs you big time. It costs you the actual experience of the game.

The player literally forgets the rest of the world- time dilates and contracts as he pours his soul into competitive action.

The spectator watches indifferently, cheering when hoops are burnt and jeering when fouls are called. The former definitely enjoys the moment far more.

Are YOU living life as a player or spectator?

One thing I’ve observed with many folks is that they go through life forever experiencing great accomplishments saying “Someday, I’ll do that” “Someday I’ll do what Bill Gates did” “Someday I’ll ask that great woman out.”

Someday.

Say “Someday” often enough and you’ll never get around to doing anything at all. You’ll forever be a spectator. Never a player.

Isn’t this shortchanging yourself?

Someday is a deadly mindset. It prevents you from fully taking responsibility for living your life. Someday eases your Soul out of the equation of life.

I dare you. Turn your “Somedays” into “TODAY”. You’ll attract the grandest opportunities into your life and breathe new life into your soul.

Today!

If you’re like me, you’d like building a financial empire that requires little input. That kicks out the 8 to 5 job in my list of desirable pursuits.

Hence, I divert 60% of my time to enhancing dozens of my websites. Web businesses are the lazy man’s Excalibur. They churn in $$$$ 24/7 even when you’re on vacation!

There’s a hitch. Only well ranked, highly optimized sites bring in the dough. If you’re ranking at less than PR3… I doubt you’d scrape by with the wealth you desire.

Now many webmasters would gladly pay $5000 to an SEO company to get their sites in the top ranks. I don’t. I turn to resources like CourtneyTuttle for a quickfix on how to be a PageRank Hero.

Check out their blog. You’ll find more articles on rank building and link baiting than a Hydra can shake a tentacle at.

If I were to pay them for the value of their free articles…. I’d say that $200,000 barely covers it.

Looking for wealth? Start at Courtneytuttle.com

Since Day ONE of the creation, blokes like you and I searched for that elusive reason to life.

“Why are we here?”

“What is our purpose?”

“Does the world follow some rhyme or reason?”

And check out the great books and authors that elaborated on the idea: Summa Theologica, The Egyptian Book of the Dead, The ‘Quoran, The Bible, Jean Paul Sarte, Socrates, Paulo Cohello, Donald Trump.

Okay, I arbitarily inserted up that last name.

But seriously. You never realized you were in the company of such eminence! Give yourself a pat on the back, Mr. Philosopher.

Stop, and consider how, after all that rheotoric, prose, and giddy exhortation, few of these dissertations truly arrived at some enlightening, jaw dropping Meaning of Life that literally gave you the golden answer to your personal existence. (people still keep searching!) (more…)

Cortisol apparently arises from stress and this helpful blog entry gave a clue on avoiding this deadly chemical. Here’s a snippet:

The key to escape cortisol though… is to change your voice… run from negative people… go for a walk… or find some tangible way to be good to you until cortisol stops surging in your brain and positive tone returns. What do you think?

Link to the whole article is here:
Cortisol

To this I’d like to add one special technique I use to minimize stress.

And that’s to stop the inner voice that whispers “There’s Something Wrong Here” when something does go wrong (well, according to your standards)

Okay. It’s traffic. What happens? You grumble, cuss and think “Something’s wrong here”

Your girlfriend is silent. She’s giving the cold shoulder and you think “Something’s wrong here”

Such thinking builds up stress fast. Deathly fast.

Find peace by simply accepting things at face value. And saying “everything’s ok. I can manage!”

Making Money from Selling Advertising Space

If you would observe the company that delivers the daily paper to your doorstep for a business case study, you will come to learn that the newspaper publisher hires reporters, writers and other important staff to create the contents and deliver the papers to their readers.

In addition to the above mention, the publisher has to invest regularly in heavy duty machineries and tons of papers in printing tons of newspapers on a daily basis.

And in order to ensure that the newspapers are delivered on time, the publisher appoints agents at every part of the covered territory.

So, how does the newspaper company make money? It is obvious that selling a copy of the papers at less than a dollar would not even be able to even fund the operations. (more…)

Something lurks in us that demands fulfillment.

It is an inner desire to achieve our best possible self, to go through life at our finest level! You I and everyone nurses an inner drive to personal greatness- to grasp that star of Akabar. Since this is a subliminal desire, it does not often fully surface in our everyday consciousness. Folks don’t even quickly understand that they even have it.

Nonetheless, our subconscious drive to greatness rests below the annals of our minds. And magically, our subconscious, being goal seeking, exerts effort to fulfill it.

Still, thousands fail to act to better themselves so that they can achieve superior greatness that can easily be theirs. They settle for mediocrity- or even yield completely. This unleashes an inner conflict between what they are and the greatness which their souls lust for in their lives. (more…)