Cardinal Rule for women who desire married: Never “demand” marriage. It is healthier for a woman to lose a man than to demand marriage.

History tells of married men - ten, twenty, thirty years later - who say, “I didn’t really wanr to marry her. She got pregnant and bullied me, and I married her under duress. I’m still furious about it, and I do not feel committed. That is the reason that I don’t lavish her the way she desires to be treated.”

Women, let him make his own decision. Do not force him. Instead of nagging, enjoy a walk. If he craves you enough, he will cooperate. Do not seduce him with wealth or sexual liberality, and don’t try to frighten him with angry pronouncement.

Often when a woman is ready to parley a (marriage) commitment, she discovers that her man isn’t. So, how does a woman “massage” the situation to goad it along - or leave it? It’s not simple. Winning a man often requires a gargantuan amount of tolerance. A first-rate man is tough to capture, and a woman can’t do anything explicit to capture him.

Imagine you have a grand committed relationship but you have never heard the words from him that particularly declare, “Will you marry me?” Most women troop to marriage counselors and say, “Please, how do I yank that proposal out of him? I’m feeling so stressed.”

Let is assume that if you have been in a relationship from six months to a year, you most probably have had attempted exploratory talks of marriage. For example, you might have said, “It’s important for me to be married by the time I am thirty-five, and I’d like to have two children by the time I am forty.”

Okay, if he has not been direct with asking you for marriage even though it appears to be where you are headed, take action. Bide time until you are almost to the end of your patience. On a scale of 1 to 10, it would be an 8. This is the time you must articulate, because if you dally longer, you will lose composure and damage or destroy a beautiful relationship.

Select a pivotal day no longer than eight weeks in the future. If by that day he has not willingly broached the idea of a commitment, you must simply say, “I love you. I love being with you. However, I need solid commitment in my life. I am grateful for the time we have had together, but it is not sufficient for me to just be together unless we can discuss marriage.”

Wait for the answer. If he cannot, does not, or will not meet your condition of planning for marriage, you must be ready to let him go.

Consider of deep-sea fishing. The only way you are going to get that fish is to get him on the boat. Snagged on the line is unsatisfactory, and the distance between snagged on the line and the boat (marriage) is a long way. It is also in this space between water and boat that you are most likely to lose him. You have to be patient, and the only way you can do that is to be anchored in your own self-love.