As an independent and savvy woman who is in a loving relationship with a man, you may have elected to be the feminine type. Now should you hook up with a man who wants to lead with his ideas, plans, and goals, then do not ask him about his feelings. Why? Because all you will get is: “Fine. Okay. Why do you ask?” You will constantly do better if you disclose him your position openly and ask him what he feels and wants to do about them.

Macho men who demand respect often evade the point when queried how they feel. They may be far from “fine” or “well” at all, but they refuse to disclose up because they feel too exposed. Masculine men need time to think before they share or act upon their feelings, especially when building a nurtured relationship with a woman they care for.

The macho man knows that a woman will either offer a safe haven for his feelings or hurt them, so normally the man who wants to be respected will keep mum as the Bank of England. But he will disclose willingly once you have forged a non-threatening arena for him. (Of course, sensitive men who are in touch of their feelings and want to be cherished do not fear disclosing and actually look forward to getting the woman’s perspective.)

Obviously. there is nothing wrong with either man, but you must bear in mind your priorities in the relationship to sidestep challenges later.

When a man or woman craves respect as the main concern, he or she often feels controlled when queried about his or her feelings, especially questions that elicit alarm, blame, inadequacy, and other upsetting issues. When people want to be cherished, they will request for cherishing. Now when a man talks about his problems to you, you run the risk of becoming “Mom,” “sob sister,” or “therapist,” all of which remove you as his woman.

hen a man feels secure, he will reveal his feelings willingly. Until then, don’t ask. The male energy who is respected will feel cherished. The female energy who is cherished will feel respected. Cherishing at its best is freely given, not asked for. All too often, however, women make the mistake of complaining to men who don’t share, give, protect, or appreciate enough.

Very importantly do not ask to be loved. If you don’t feel cherished, depart silently. If he wants you, he will pursue you and offer you what you want, often by observing you and satisfying your desires even before you consider of them.