The quickest way to enhance your circumstances is to change yourself and you have been born with the tools to achieve this.  Realize that when life throws you a curve ball, you face three options: 1) To duck and look for a scapegoat, 2) To be the scapegoat, 3) To react powerfully.

Seeking for and becoming the scapegoat tend to be options of the martyr or victim. While it seems foolish, there are payoffs to this avenue:  to validate low self-esteem, to evade responsibility, to offload blame on others, to avoid rocking the boat, to minimize risk.

The better choice is to respond powerfully; the quickest way to do this is to take proactive, positive steps using manuevers never tried before in order to yield beneficial changes. This route is not always easy as it  demands tenacity. But realize that in this life, only you have the power to take responsibility for your fortunes. If you fail, you have only yourselves to blame.

Victim consciousness tends to arise from poor self-confidence. If you persistently lose at interactions, get abused, used and misused…. isn’t it possible that you believed that you deserved to be treated that way?

The next time you find yourself ducking in the face of adversity, or buckling to force of guilt and blame, stop and ask yourself: Do I respect myself? What do I deserve? How can I take responsibility for my life and stand up for myself?

Remember: your fortunes are spawned from your creative effort. You must react powerfully!