Fighting is actually healthy. Remember the last debate you indulged in? It helped you and your spouse air issues and reach compromises. Sure there was a bit of yelling and sobbing- but that’s better than keeping quiet and boiling in resentment.Recent studies indicate that the talkative who bluster a lot actually live longer than the quiet who smolder. Silence is a sham form peace. The lack of raised voices doesn’t equate to a lack of raised emotions. Keep those emotions seething for a long time and you raise the stress chemicals in your blood: cortisol, cholesterol and all those nasty -ols bury you. Literally.

So next time something debatable comes up, speak your mind. Fight a bit. It’ll do you and your spouse a world of good.