Sexual desire in every relationship fluctuates between both partners.  Some stages are of course predictable.  For example, the following times are when sexual moods and patterns of lovemaking may shift: when you first marry, after your child is born, when the kids leave home, or when there is career pressure. 

Knowing this, and being confident enough to talk about it, makes intimacy stronger.  Those marriages that maintain sexual desire, strong intimacy, heated emotional bonding, and erogenous attraction all take part in the following actions that contribute to the “secret” of their marriage:  

1.  Sexual marriages do not keep affection inside of the bedroom only.  Couples whose sex lives bring them the most happiness tend to eroticize their lives.  In other words, they give affection both physically and verbally throughout the day.  They do this in different ways.  They touch, hug, kiss, and flirt.  Whether it’s reassuring or frantically passionate, touch makes the difference between making love and having sex. 

2.  Married couples who always seem to have passion in their relationship make it a habit to make time for love.  Sexy wives know that lovemaking is a habit: The more you do it, the more you like it, and the more you like it, the more you will do it!  Lovemaking is a top priority, and if that means that sex has to be scheduled, then so be it.  Just because it is planned does not make it any less exciting for these couples.  They feel that sexual excitement feeds on itself, so they just do it.   

3.  These steamy couples also make it a point to talk everyday.  Even if it is just ten minutes in the morning and a few more minutes at night, they voice their love for each other continuously.  In taking the same behavior patterns from these kinds of couples, your duty is to voice your own love for your spouse in any manner that pleases you.  Call each other pet names, remember to always say goodnight or goodbye when you leave.  Just be sure that you don’t fall into the mind-reader trap of assuming your partner knows or should know what you are thinking and feeling just “because he loves me.”  Those sexy couples in marriages make a point of expressing their feelings and their attraction to each other on a routine basis. 

4.  Kissing is also at the top of the list of priorities for the passionate couple.  We’re not talking about a perfunctory peck on the forehead but rather a deep, sensual, teasing kiss that is given with passion.  Many longtime couples rarely kiss at all, going straight to intercourse when they have sex.  Don’t you remember the backseat?  How about making out in the movie theater?  Keep this up, steal a kiss!